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writes:Ok, there is this girl that I like, and she liked me. We went out to a movie as friends, and I was going to ask her out. I felt a connection. But the next day, I was texting her, and we were joking around, and she jokingly said we're not friends anymore. I didnt realise she was joking and was very upset and layed my heart out to try and "get her back" (which was a mistake). I tried to cover it up when I realised it was a joke because I'm shy and came up with bad excuses. Ever since then we haven't really spoken like before, its been very awkward... However, just recently I found out that she did like me, and hoped we would go out. I was gonna ask her now, but before I could she mentioned that it was too bad we didn’t go out, but things happen for a reason. She said she thinks something changed and it’s not the same as before. I still like her, but I'm unsure if she still likes me. I would let go and move on, except we work together and we see each other a lot. What should I do? I would like to ask her to prom...
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 April 2009): Well the consensus seems to be to just ask her. That was what i was thinking i would have to do. But im nervous about it... Being nervous about it scares me, only because before i would have no problem asking, but ever since thinges changed im more reclusive, which leads me to believe that she is right and something has changed. Before we were really close, not necessarily "the one", but alot of potential, but now its...just...different (i cant think of any other way to descrbe it...). I feel if i were to ask her out, it might seem forced, which i dont want. Was thinking about asking her to prom, just to have a good time, not as a date as such, and see where it goes from there. If she says no, well there are there are alot more fish in the sea.
I'd also like to thank everyone for taking their time to help me :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 April 2009): Tell her you still like her and ask if she still likes you and if so, ask her out. Life is too short to die wondering! Good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 April 2009): Wow, she is really confusing you! I can't figure out if she is playing hard-to-get, if she just wants to be friends, or if she is not sure how she feels.I really feel for you, you must not know where you stand with this girl, and I don't blame you. And I don't think it was wrong of you to be upset when she joked that you were no longer friends. Why anyone would say that as a "joke" is beyond me.Well, I would just ask her straight out. If you want to know what is going on, ask her. Or if you want to ask her to the prom, again do so. I think there is enough confusion and mixed-messages here, so some straight talking might be helpful!If she is still being elusive though, and confusing you, then yeah, it might be good to try and move on. I can understand this might be hard though, if you work together. But if she keeps playing games, then it might be the best thing for you.Whatever you decide to do, I wish you luck. x
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reader, Duncan  +, writes (29 April 2009):
 Sometimes we get scared when the truth turns up. You say she liked you but you haven't spoken since. Try just speaking to her again. Never turn down the chance or you'll always be asking what if? Go back to her and find out. You never know you may like the answer.
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