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writes:Hi there guys... I could really do with some words of wisdom, as I can't really talk to any of my friends about this...Basically, I am 24 years old, and came out of a 4 year relationship about 18 months ago. I can safely say that I'm completely over it, and feel ready to move on and meet someone else.But there are two problems. Firstly, almost all of my friends, bar 2 or 3, are in seemingly happy relationships, and even though I am happy for them, I can't help but feel jealous. One of my friends broke up with her ex of 3 years a couple of months ago, and has already got a new boyfriend. It's not like I'm so desperate that I would go out with anybody, but I am beginning to feel horribly lonely, which is hard as normally I am such a vivacious and outgoing person. I have an active life and see friends and am in a sports team. But I never seem to meet anyone...Sometimes I wake up in the night scared that I'm going to be alone for ever. The second part is to do with my self confidence. Only my very best and oldest friends would ever know that I have confidence issues... I am very outgoing and hide it well. I am a bit overweight, and whilst I know I'm not ugly or anything, I do feel like the odd one out of my friends, and although I do desperately want somebody new in my life, the other part of me feels that I don't deserve it, or that I am meant to be single and unhappy. Please help...I don't know how to stop feeling like this and it's slowly grinding me down...
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 March 2009): Thank you. It is so comforting to know that there are strangers out there who would take the time to help out someone they have never met.
I wish you both well:)
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reader, maxi_enigma  +, writes (8 March 2009):
 hey you should try going out with someone.because unless u try u wud never know. and trust me knowing is better than wondering.try is the word.and since u hv already bn in a relationship, and it must hav taught u something.may be there is someone who loves u and dreams of u.and its fair enough to be desperate, its very much a human thing. so dont let ur lack of confidence hinder ur wishes.peace.
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reader, FroggieGman  +, writes (8 March 2009):
Well you said you were outgoing, give it time. Your question is well worded and articulate, obviously you are an intelligent woman and I'm sure a beautiful one too. Time heals and you just need to allow some to pass. Read, masturbate and just enjoy your life as it is for now. I lost my wife to a car accident, end of the world to me, but I'm managing.
Good Luck
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