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donadell
writes:For 5 years I have taken care of a grandmother and grandson. Now I've met someone love at first we live together my grandson's mom is back in the picture and my grandmother is being cared for by my mom. Everything just fell into place. My problem is however my boyfriend works nights and I have too much time now that I'm not taking care of someone. Besides I miss him we don't have enough time together.
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reader, Ask oldersister + ♥, writes (6 May 2008):
 Hi, donadell. You've been a caregiver for quite some time, yes? Maybe it's now time to start taking care of yourself? When we are so busy attending to others, we tend to escape ourselves and it becomes quite scary when we don't have this escape anymore. I am going through something similar and when my time used to be so filled up I would think about all the things I could be doing like exercising, reading books, going out with friends, etc...Now that I have that time, it feels a little paralyzing. I have to force myself to do those things. It's much easier to focus on taking care of other people and much harder to do things for yourself I find. Start small, like doing yoga every day or making sure you are doing things you enjoy. It may be difficult to know what those things are so start with something simple. I bought a high maintenance puppy that I take on walks, groom, and fuss over. You could join a gym. Find some project you can enjoy or even something you think you may like. I hope this helps.
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