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writes: i met my best friend back about 9 months ago. we were both in relationships, but immediately had very strong chemistry. after talking about it, we decided that ignoring it would be best, as we both had ties elsewhere. we became very close friends rather quickly, and one night, we wound up sleeping together. afterwards, we talked about our feelings for one another, and she told me that she wanted to be with me and leave her boyfriend. i was on a break with my girlfriend at the time, so this was plausible for me. but the next day, she told me she changed her mind and wanted to go back to her boyfriend. i was hurt, but got over it and we still remained friends. i wound up getting back together with my girlfriend later on, and we've been together since. but about a month ago, she told me that she'd fallen in love with me. i was taken aback and didn't know how to respond. we hadn't really talked about it since. but now my girlfriend and i are done, and she's having issues with her boyfriend. she told me she's thinking about breaking up with him. so now, i'm torn as to what to do. i want to make a move, and a part of me feels like she's waiting for me to, but the other part of me worries that i'll be rejected. i really do love this girl and want to be with her, but i don't know if she feels the same. what should i do, and should i try anything?
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 October 2006): I have this really good friend, and well, I am in love with her. I know she at least likes me, but her last boyfriend broke her heart, and I asked her on a date, not into a relationship, but just on one date, and she agreed, but then backed out at the last minute. She said she wasn't ready to date again. So... I tried to get over her and it didn't work, but I flirted with all of her good friends, and they were my friends too, but now, one of them might like me. The good thing is, it made her really jealous, and now she really likes me again. But I can't be sure if its for real...Should I ask her out,I know she wants to, but will she turn around again and say she isn't ready?no one knows...I would regret it if I didn't take the chance though...and you should take the chance, its better than living with regrets
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reader, guardian87  +, writes (8 October 2006):
 Well...i think it is worth a shot. I can understand exactly what u feel with rejection, but let me tell u this: i am currently dating my best friend, and it took me 4 tries to have her say yes, and neither i or her am regreting this. Along with this, i she and i had plans earlier, but i went back to my ex gf at the last minute. she was friggen pissed with me, but we still ended up best friends in the end.
Long story short, if ur best friend says no, the worst that could happen is u two still being best friends, so that really isnt that bad at all.
Another perspective of this is that if u really do love her and feel like u can ask her, then do. but maybe u should try to find out wut she's thinking completely and then ask her if she is saying that she really likes u too.
Best of Luck to u!!! :D
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