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writes:I am a 24 year old female, I have been with my boyfriend for 10 years and we have a 7 year old son! I moved out with my mom for about 4 days and came back for all the wrong reasons! I have been back for 3 days and still want to be on my own but he makes me feel sorry for him when I'm not here, he cries and says he's going to change and I just can't... I don't sleep, my heart races at night when he puts his arms around me and I want to leave but maintain a friendship for my son's sake but he don't get it and calls and texts me and I don't know what to do? How do I tell him I want to be done and it's for good??? He just don't stop!
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reader, rcn +, writes (23 February 2009):
 Realize 10 years is a long investment with anyone. It may be easier for you to walk away than it is for him. By reading this, you are in a situation that quite a few people are. You finished school, and they forgot to teach either of you how to have a successful relationship. You know, they forgot to teach me the same. After 3 failed long term relationships, I decided "no more" and had to find out for myself.
I'm not saying this is the person for you, but I am saying before getting into another relationship you need to find what works and what doesn't. It's up to you to gain the tools to improve your knowledge of being in a relationship to provide your son with stability. I've counseled many people who are on their third or fourth marriage. In many of those cases, they didn't know what they were doing all three or four times.
I hope all works for you. Take care.
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