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writes:i’m in love with a boy and he’s my friend about one year,one day i confess him that i love him but he didn’t say anything i was so broken after that,and he didn’t talk, about that and he acted so normaly,then after sometime i was talking to him and i said that ‘i don’t love you’i was just lying!and he didn’t love that he said that he likes me so much,but lately he acted so wierd he cares more and gives me so much attention but he’s teasing me cuz i don’t know if he loves me or not he told me that he deosn’t know how to deal with girls and he deosn’t know what he’s doing ,i send him a message i said that i want him to be clear but he doesn't answer =(i want a solution i want him to love me and confess i want him to be clear cuz i’m so confused! plz help me=(
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reader, manoul  +, writes (10 October 2011):
 yeah ! i will forget him soon =) thnx a lot for ur help ! now he's talking with me and he didn't talk about my message so he's not mad of me ,i'm happy ! i can be just a friend cuz i know that someday i will forget about him! thank u very much 3
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 October 2011): If he has a girlfriend well maybe he was confused as to what you wanted because you went back on your word after saying you loved him (which was a little strong in my opinion).
The best thing you can do is forget about him now, do not regret how things turned out. Look on it that everything will work out for the best in the end and maybe he wasn't really the guy for you. You are young so don't beat yourself up about it, just look on it as a learning experience.
So that when you do meet the next guy take it slowly, tell him you like him first before you dive in the deep end and use "love". A lot of guys, especially young guys get scared off by that word.
In the mean time go about your life and Im sure you will meet a nice guy soon, and you can draw back on this experience and know what to do.
Good Luck.x
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reader, manoul +, writes (10 October 2011):
thnx guys 3 =)! but i think it's the end, cuz he's with another girl now but just on facebook she's in another city ! i'm not online anymore since i sent him that message i think he misunderstood what i said ,maybe, he thought that i want us to be just friends :/ i'm confused! i don't see him anymore and he doesn't care,so what should i do?i have to forget about him and move on ? or i have to wait ?
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reader, mrg123  +, writes (9 October 2011):
 Manoul,
What do you mean by 'not available'? Do you mean in a relationship sense, or in the non-contactable sense? I am almost tempted to suggested to say your confusing yourself a little - I understand its hard when you have these feelings and your fit to burst.
If he isnt contactable then that means he has just has taken fright a little bit I think. Give him some space and see what happens. His actions tell me he cares so I think its important you remind yourself of that whenever this is playing on your mind and try to do things to keep your mind off it - also, deidre is spot-on, I think. :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 October 2011): I get why you said you lied, but now that has made things worse and he is probably just as confused as you are.
Maybe love is a little strong to use, if he has not got much experience with girls, well then he is not really going to know whether its love or a strong crush that he feels. He was being honest with you I think. He could have lied and said all sorts of lovely things to you, only to go back on his word later.
You are both young, so give it time, take it slow, don't smother him give him some space. Then tell him you don't know if its love that you feel, but you like him and would like to be more than friends, then see what he says.
If he is pausing, not giving you an answer well don't take it to heart, because maybe he does like you as he said, but is just not ready for a relationship. In that case, give him space and don't jeopardise your friendship.
Good luck.x
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reader, manoul +, writes (8 October 2011):
thank u for that, but there's a little problem,he is not available now ! i think cuz i sent him that message when i said i don't want to be confused anymore=(! what i should do to fix that plzzzzz help =( yeah i know i'm pushing so hard
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reader, mrg123 +, writes (8 October 2011):
Well your sending mixed signals here so I am not surprised he has been a bit recalcitrant with his. It can be a bit of a shock to have somebody turn round and say they love you so that explains his initial response. Saying you love somebody is a big comittment and dont read too much into what he said but look now at what he is doing - he is sending you a subtle signal that he likes you too.
I think your pushing too hard and too fast to be honest and your in danger of scaring him off. Dont push the love thing for now - I know its hard not to do that when you have laid your feelings on the line but he is obviously shy and insecure when it comes to dealing with these things and pushing hard is only going to force him to retreat further into his shell. Try and just enjoy his company. Try and do some fun things together that are 'date like' but not officially dates. Gradually you will find he will open up about his feelings when he feels comfortable too and I am sure you will get the response you want but only if you go a bit slower. Good luck :)
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