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anonymous
writes:hi me and my fiance are 15 years apart and having a hard time being satisfied in the bedroom,im 20 and hes 35 i work 4 days a week 9am to 3pmhe works 5 to 6 days a week 6am to 5pm hes job is hard and i know he is so tiredwe have sex about 3 times a week and i give him blow jobs every other night i had a question how do i turn him on more i could have sex at least twice a day but i would go for everyother day how do i talk to him about this we live together i mean i would be ok with sex on monday tuesday a blow job then wed sex and thrusday blow job and then friday sex sat sex and sunday a blow job i love giving him blow jobs and he wants them all the time and we have great sex just every 2 to three days and that way he doesnt last very long so do i just come out and talk to him about it or easy into it i love him with all my heart i dont want to push anything i do know hes tired alot or want him to think were planning with a chart when we should do it or anything please help what i want is it to much to ask for ?he would rather get a blow job monday tuesday and then sex wed and blow job thrusday sex friday sat and blow job sunday but i need a little bit more i feel like hes getting almost all the pleasure i want to get off too im a sexual human being so what do you guys think?
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 July 2008): I am single so I don't know the answer to this question, but do all monogamous couples have a sex schedule? Don't you lose the fun of having sex if it is planned? Shouldn't you just do it when you feel like it? But then again, I am single...I don't have the same issues.
I just found it a little disturbing how planned out your sex life is. Maybe you need to spice it up by doing something different or somewhere different. Try to find a different way of enticing him rather than the "okay hun, you know what day it is, blow job day" Yaaayyyyy!
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (23 July 2008):
 Why is it that you don't feel you can ask for what you need in bed? Why not tell him that you need more participatory sex?
You could start with a blow job, then climb on top of him and help give him the hint by putting his hands where you'd like them.
And then do that every time you are wanting sex instead of just giving him a blow job. If he doesn't respond to that, then you do need to tell him that you find your current sex calendar unsatisfactory.
Talk, communicate, show him what you'd like. His work schedule does sound grueling but he can still walk at the end of it, can't he? And use his hands and his mouth?
You need to let him know what you need before you start to grow resentful. And frankly, he sounds like one lucky guy. I hope he realizes this before he loses you!
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reader, pyan  +, writes (23 July 2008):
Hi
sound to me that he is a very luck man you could try oral for oral. it sould like you should tell him what you would like and may let him catch you releaving yourself when he askes why you could tell him you need more.
lets us know how you go on.
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reader, Emilysanswers  +, writes (23 July 2008):
If you keep handing him blowjobs where he gets pleasure but doesn't have to move then of course he's not going to give you more sex. Sex involves effort.
Stop giving them and tell him if he wants you he can have you. If you go on top he still doesn't have to do much.
Good Luck!! xx
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