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writes:I've been going out with a guy for a while now and I don't like him any more. (I think it's because I don't want a boyfriend right now but I'm not sure.) I want to break up with him but I don't know how because he hasn't done anything wrong. I can't face him but he is a bit clingy, what should I do?? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 July 2012): Yes its true, a person doesn't have to do anything wrong for their bf/gf to break up with them. Although he may feel its a bit unjustified.
The fact of the matter is, you are not ready for a relationship and you can't offer him what a loving committed girlfriend should, and the longer you're with him the more time is being wasted, when he could be spending it with someone who wants the same as he wants.
Yes he will be hurt, and you may/may not feel guilty about it, but its not life threatening, he will get over it.
You can offer him your friendship if you don't feel awkward about it after a break up, but be aware he will likely take it badly to the point he thinks zero contact is the best thing for him in order to get over you.
You have to do what is right for you, as everyone does for themselves at the end of the day. You may be the first to break his heart (I'm guessing because of the age) but you definitely won't be the last. And everybody experiences it at least once in their life.
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reader, shrodingerscat  +, writes (30 July 2012):
 There's no rule that a person has to do something wrong in order to break up with them. Just tell them that you're moving in a different directions in your life right now and you're not invested in the relationship anymore.
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (30 July 2012):
 He doesn't have to do anything wrong for you to break up. I will tell you what you should say to him.
"You're a great guy, the problem is I don't feel anything other than friendship for you. I would love for us to be friends, but I realize that can be difficult for you. So I will give you some time and keep my distance for a while. I hope you understand that there is not anything wrong with you, you didn't do anything. You are a great guy. I just don't feel for you like a girlfriend should feel for a boyfriend."
If he pushes for it just tell him like you've told us.... You don't like him any more and you aren't in love with him. But the more delicate way to put it is "I think we should be friends".
Mind you, he probably doesn't want to be friends afterwards. He's probably in love, and he will need time to get over you. So don't be too worried if he stays away for a while, or never talks to you again. It is rare for exes to be friends after a breakup.
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