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I want to be with him but I'm not sure that I can trust him

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Question - (30 August 2014) 2 Answers - (Newest, 30 August 2014)
A female Canada age 26-29, *uffyTORI writes:

My names Tori and I dated my bf for just over a year. I signed up for a summer volunteering placement that involved me spending the summer travelling and doing work in low income communities. I left on June 1st and returned on Monday. While I was there I met another volunteer Cody, he is 29 and had a gf he had been dating for three years. We got close and we were both attracted to each other. We ended up getting together and cheating on our bf/gfs. I feel horrible for it. I would have never thought that I would cheat on anyone.

I didn't tell my bf. when I came home and saw him I felt horrible. Now that I'm home I don't feel like I can be with him. I've still been texting and calling Cody. He told his gf what had happened a few days before we came home. She said she wanted to talk to him in person. Once he got home he broke up with her.

He said he would love to continue what we started and I love that idea, I really like him but I don't know if I can trust him. He cheated on his gf of 3 yrs,. I know I did the same thing and I'm sure alot of you would say I deserve to have him cheat on me.

Am I crazy for wanting to date him but not fully trusting him

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A female reader, DuffyTORI Canada +, writes (30 August 2014):

DuffyTORI is verified as being by the original poster of the question

We actually never had "sex" we messed around, kissed. touched and did things orally.

I know I need to break things off with my bf and I do plan in doing it today. He has never cheated on anyone in past, he has always been 100% faithful in ll his past relationship.

I never once thought I would cheat on anyone either. I went on this trip counting the days to coming home to my bf. Cody and I didn't set out to be with each other, we became friends and the connecting we had was incredible.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (30 August 2014):

He betrayed his girlfriend by sleeping with you instead of breaking up with her first or attempting to fix things.

He is ok to carry on an emotional affair with you whilst you are in a relationship with your current boyfriend which is what you are doing by remaining in touch with him.

It wouldn't be very sensible to trust him.

It wouldn't be very sensible for him to trust you.

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