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writes:Hi peeps!Ok so I am slightly confused at the moment... I have become good friends with someone I work with I will call her X, so anyway we have done a few things together outside of work, we talk all the time on the phone. I have noticed recently that she touches me a lot more when talking or laughing, I have caught her looking at me a few times when she thinks I am not looking, when we are talking eye contact is held slightly longer than normal to the point where i have to look away as it feels slightly awkward! She says she is straight and not interested in anything other than friendship which is fine, she has just had a bad break up and needs to get over that which I completly understand and am trying to be there for her. I want to be her friend but I am afraid my feelings are running to deep to carry the friendship on the way it is... There is such a chemistry between us it is hard for me to ignore (I know it's not just me feeling it as other people have commented on it too). I often wonder if she does feel something but is choosing to ignore it or cant see it because of the break up?!Arhhhhhhhhhhh Advice needed.Thanks for listening :o)
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (6 January 2012):
 Well to be honest I speak to my friends 24 hours a day and call them gorgeous as well, but I do not mean it in a sexual way. Sometimes that's where wires get crossed. She probably doesn't even realise how she is making you feel and if she does then she is being quite cruel. Have a quiet word with her and explain to her that her behaviour and words sometimes makes you feel that there is more to the friendship and it just hurts you more. Its best to be honest.
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reader, Confused1999 +, writes (6 January 2012):
Confused1999 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for you reply... I have kinda told her how i feel and was told if she wasnt straight then she would jump at the chance... She tells me i am gorgeous, talks to me 24/7 which in my oppionion you dont do with just a friend. The thing i dont understand is that she knows how i feel but she still continues to flirt with me. I would get away from the situation but its hard when you have to face everyday!
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reader, aunt honesty +, writes (6 January 2012):
It is hard to tell how she is feeling, but it sounds to me like she is close to you as a friend but that is it. Just because she touches you and stares and you does not mean there is romantic feelings involved. There are plenty of woman who are very affecionate to other woman but they are completely straight. If you are beginning to feel uncomfortable around her then you need to be honest with her and just tell her how you have been feeling. If she does not feel the same as you then you need to let this go and move on with things. Good luck.
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