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writes: Did I overreact? I have been hanging out with my ex-boyfriend this past week (we haven't talked for two years). I'm kind of depressed and he says things like he wants to make me happy. I told him I have to be happy on my own first, and he said he was glad I told him that. Anyways, yesterday he said he doesn't need anymore friends right now, and that we would both be alright if we didn't talk anymore. He went on to say that instead he wants a companion, and that I don't. So, he asked for my friend's number. I gave it to him, but feel like the whole "being friends" this past week was his ulterior motive. I don't like him as more than friends, but now I don't even want to be his friend and told him that. Am I overreacting?
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reader, -Clare- +, writes (11 July 2006):
 No you are not over reacting. You told him how you felt and he should have respected that. He didnt so thats all that you can do. He has to realise that you told him the truth and that allways beter then a lie. Also when he asked for you friends number and you gave it to him that was very brave. You didn't have to give him your friends number but you did after he had just said to you that he didn't wasnt to be yours. It was a brave and bold thing to do and you took it on. Thats no over reaction its being resposable. -Clare-
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 July 2006): No dear..you didn't over-react. No one likes to have insincere, selfish people in their lives who 'use' them to meets their own ends. I think you were upset and you took a stand. There is absolutely nothing wrong with that. If you have no regrets and you feel he used you to get that friend's number..then his uncaring behaviours tell you as lot about his character, doesn't it? And remember when someone 'steps on you' so blatantly as this fellow did, taking a stand assertively is central to developing a new stronger you! Cofidence and self-esteem was well earned I would say. Good for you, hun. Stay true and stay strong.
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