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writes:Hey guys, I really need some serious advice here. So I'm legally married but my husband has been incarcerated for almost seven months now. Our relationship was a little rocky before the incarceration because we weren't living together and I was actually staying in a homeless shelter while he refused to come and at least try to start something as a family. As much as I love him, I decided to give up because I figured he wasn't going to change. Now its May and I'm four months pregnant. I love my husband, and honestly I don't know why, and I don't want to hurt him. At the same time, I don't believe in abortion and I'm definitely not planning on any relationships with this other guy. Its just something that happened in my eyes. The question now: How do I console him and let him know how sorry I am? How I want to work out our marriage?Mind you when we first started dating he forced me to have a miscarriage by cheating on me with his ex and she got pregnant. That baby is 3 years old now...Someone help!!
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reader, Annalisa  +, writes (4 May 2009):
 Hmmm...
Well, apologysing, telling him you're pregnant but don't want to make this innocent baby pay for your mistakes and just telling him you love him and want him back should be enough.
Discuss with him whether things could work between you if you got back together; would he be happy to raise your baby with you, for the sake of you and the love you share?
Honesty and sincerity are always the best policy.
He should feel your love for him and act upon it.
But if he isn't interested or tries to force you to abort the baby, then you'll need to be strong and stand up for yourself, for what you feel is right.
He's clearly not perfect, so no matter how much you care about him, remember to put yourself first and demand the respect you deserve.
God bless you and good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 May 2009): I'm wondering why you were living in a shelter? Was it because your "husband" hit you or something?
But, he's already proven his willingness to cheat on you and you are pregnant with another mans child too....... I'd have to say it sounds like this "husband" is gona have major issues with you being pregnant and it's best to just end the marriage. After all, how can you love him so much if you gave up and slept another man? I don't mean to be harsh as I'm sure you have enough worry but it seems getting away from him and possibly making a life with you baby's dady if possible is a better road to try. I hope you make a wise choice and have a wonderful life.
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