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30-35,
*roovymoving
writes:I am a bisexual guy who's attracted to both genders and has had sex with both of them. Trouble is, I don't enjoy sex, even though I do want it.I currently have a boyfriend for whom I have fallen head over heels and we do engage in intimacies from time to time, just like any other couple does. Starting with hugs, moving on to kisses and up until oral satisfaction - both giving and receiving - is heavenly. But when it comes to intercourse, I simply cannot enjoy the process. Being the bottom gives me an awful feeling of discomfort in my stomach, while being the top makes me feel everything but confident. I like the feeling of orgasm and it fills me with happiness when I see my partner reaching it. But most of what comes before that moment is more or less unpleasant for me. We have tried different poses but in the end, it makes no difference whatsoever.Is there something wrong with me and can I do anything to improve my situation?
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reader, groovymoving +, writes (12 November 2010):
groovymoving is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThat was a really helpful answer, Cerberus! I think that's exactly what I'm going to do, ask him if he'd like to turn it into something twice as special. Thank you very much! :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 November 2010): No there is nothing wrong with you. Most male gay couples I've met don't practice anal penetration, only oral and manual. I know one couple where one of the partners loved anal and the other didn't. So they reached a compromise where it would only be something for special occasions. They'd do it once every two weeks or so. They told me there's no way to make yourself like it, there's no position or anything else that will work to make you like it more. For them it became a special treat, he did it for his partner even though he didn't like it, because he loved him and wanted to please him and that was worth way more to him than the discomfort of doing it. His partner was really appreciative of this too. Plus the fact they didn't do anal often made it less of chore for the guy who didn't like it and made it something to look forward to for the other guy. Something he could ask for and be rewarded with.
Talk to your partner and discuss a compromise. You can do oral and/or manual pleasure lots of times daily. Then maybe once a week on the weekend he can have anal as a special treat.
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