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writes:Me and my Baby Dad still love each other. he has a new girl he is dealing with and thats fine because i know i ran him away in some sense. I'm women enough to admit my faults i keep giving him baby mama drama and i cant seem to stop even when i try! smh its like a damn curse. i call him with the petty shit. she writes on twitter and she is also stalking me (how crazy is that). she knows Im a bit of threat but im not helping myself by being a pest! how do i keep my cool and what steps should i take to show him im not really this dramatic woman who cant control her emotions? i used to be the coolest girl on earth but it seems like i cant even keep my cool anymore smh help please and no rude get over him move on type of comments i need women and men who has been through this situation or know how to get their partner back even if i keep messing up (sorry i rambled)
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reader, Volunteeredtohelp +, writes (20 February 2013):
I agree you are being very selfish. And if he loved you I don't think he would be dating someone else. He's your ex for a reason. Let him breathe leave him and his girl alone. I wouldn't see you as a threat if I was her your just a "baby mom" having his kid won't make him come back!
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 February 2013): he might never come back to you, and you are being selfish really because you are basically trying to butt this other girl out of the relationship.
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reader, Mariab  +, writes (18 February 2013):
 The more you keep acting up and not getting a grip of your emotions, the less likely this guy is going to respect you and take you seriously! You really need to get a grip of your emotions and respect his decision to move on! If you behaved differently, he MAY (or may not) realize what a big mistake it was to leave you and come running back. In my experience... Lightning doesn't strike twice in the same place. You have to fight your urges and let him go...try to move on...I think this will make him see you in a different light and could be beneficial to mending your relationship...even if you didn't end up together, you share a child and being civil and respectful is a win-win for all! Good luck xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 February 2013): " i need women and men who . . . know how to get their partner back even if i keep messing up"You are asking the impossible. You can't "get" your ex to do anything that he would not be inclined to do otherwise, even if he didn't have a new girlfriend (which he does) or even if you were behaving like a mature responsible adult (which you aren't) or even if he stood anything to gain by getting back together with you (which he doesn't). You are his ex for a reason and whatever it may be, I have no doubt it is a valid and legitimate one. Radical idea: as a mother, why not put the best interests of YOUR CHILD (the unmentioned afterthought who makes ex your baby dad and you his baby mama) ahead of your own and realize that by making your ex's life a living hell, you are depriving YOUR CHILD of having a present, active, involved father in his/her life.You are not a "baby mama" you are the mother of a child of indeterminate age and gender, and you need to start putting your child's best interests and emotional well-being ahead of your own self-absorbed, vacuous, immature, childish, petty, juvenile romantic travails.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 February 2013): Hi, if you want him back , you need to make changes and also know that there are no guarantees he will comeback.Firstly stop chasing him and hounding him with calls. That will be a bruise to his ego as he will start to wonder why you no longer interested. You need to have a life outside him and the baby, that is go out and have fun. you have built an unhealthy obsession with this man. When you see him, dont complain, no drama's, just be casual and indifferent.If you continue to hound and nag him, he will not come back. Start living your life without him, because that is what you need in order to even heal. When he wants to see the kid, have someone else be around to give him the child. Start puting the distance and if he asks why the distance, tell him you believe you need your space and also you are tired of all the drama. He needs to miss you and appreciate you in order to want to back. What you are doing is being a bitter ex.This approach can have to reactions, one you are able to move on and find someone else and two , he realises he wants you in his life. I believe the above will only result in something positive coming out of it as you need to stop holding on to teh past. Accept your'll are no longer together and imagine if you were in his GF shoes how would you feel.
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reader, CMMP +, writes (18 February 2013):
You can't get him back until you stop messing up. The reason she says you're stalking her is because that's what he's telling her. He's probably exaggerating so she doesn't get mad, but as you said you are giving them fuel.
What you need to work on is keeping your cool. No man wants to be with someone who nags him. So, every time you talk to him, think twice about what you want to say and if it's worth bugging him over. Keep your interactions with him POSITIVE! Otherwise you'll never get him back for anything other than sex.
If he's been with the girl for awhile you'll need to be patient; he's not likely to up and leave her when it's going well to be with someone who things weren't going well with.
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