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writes:ok im not sure where to start but after working with my friend for the past year we formed a good friendship but ive always had feelings for him. he had a breakdown earlier in the year which i helped him through and have been there for him a lot-lending money etc basically a very good friend. lately hes hardly called and i feel redundant as if im no use anymore and im upset we rowed over this. im not selfish and want him to do well. ive helped him through 3 exams and still really like him but feel so empty now. do you think he values me at all and will he still need me or shall i just be cool and perhaps he'll realise what he had please advise im so distraught i just want him to realise what hes goot but i fear he never will whats wrong with me ?
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 September 2010): i was stupidly in love with someone for 8 months and they didn't know, i finally told him and he didn't feel the same way, it was hard at first but you get over it, sometimes it still hurts at times when i feel alone.
but the thing is, if i'd never told him i'd still be waiting for him now and not moved anywhere with my life.
all them months i kept telling myself he'll realize what he's missing, i didn't speak to him for a few weeks sometimes.
i think maybe i kept putting off telling him how i felt cause i didnt want to get hurt but i realize now id rather know than always wonder. if you take a risk and tell him either way your moving forward with your life which is the only healthy option. good luck with whatever you do :)
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reader, Goodguy84  +, writes (4 September 2010):
If you have feelings for him you need to tell him. If you get the answer you want then great, if not, it will suck. But wishing someone knew how you felt about them isn't telling them. So tell him and go from there.
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