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writes:Im 16 and have been in a relationship with my boyfriend (also 16) for almost 13 months. We haven't really done anything physical besides making out a bit but we both decided that PDA is gross and we don't want to risk pregnancy and we also are both believers in no sex before marriage. We also both don't party or anything and i never see him try to talk to other girls really all that much. We are best friends. We have lots of personal jokes and whenever one of us is mad about something we try to work it out and when we fight its never in person always in text (which can be somewhat confusing sometimes). But in all I am very happy and very attracted to him still. However, sometimes I feel like we can't be serious with eachother. When we talk it can be all in jokes. And we run out of things to say a lot. We usually text everyday and we try to go on dates at least once a week. It bothers me though how he wants to watch movies and play video games at his house almost 9/10 of the time. Should I be bothered by that? Anyways, recently I feel like he hasn't put forth as much effort to please me, I suppose I've kinda always seen him in a bright light and I know when I started dating him I started dating his flaws, but now he's getting really easily annoyed by how much I get offended at things. One day we were at the lunch lady and my friend Jessie and him were joking about how I type. And It made me feel badly about myself and I told him that and he said that it was just a joke and that I shouldn't be so easily offended. And I told him that I did take offense because I didnt know they were joking, I thought they were just making fun of me. And he just got mad. And my question is, should I be offended? Or should I just let the jokes pass? And I think he should of defended me or said my typing was nice or something but instead he just laughed at the impression of me typing. So lately I've kinda felt like he should do something to show me he loves me. Because I've recently realized that I've been kinda Infatuated with him. And I know he's proven himself as far as being faithful. But I also want a guy who makes me feel like the luckiest lady in the world. And i want him to start participating in serious conversations in person with me. Is it wrong of me to want more from him? Also, how do I know if he loves me as much as I love him? And how can I get him to look at me as more of a lover and not just a best friend? Thank you :)
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reader, LittleMan  +, writes (3 April 2013):
Well, from what you disclosed you are in your first or second year of high school. At that time most boys are usually immature so you can't really expect much maturity and romance on their part. But since there is a problem with you and him, you really need to talk it out. Explain to him that you get hurt when he encourages jokes about you. Do it in person like the person-below-me said. Be clear and concise, if you really have something special then he should understand and from that point you should address your concerns in person.
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