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writes:I met my soul mate my love on the internet bleive it or not we clicked right away she has three beautiful great kids i love them as much as lets call my girlfriend teena well she was honest from the beginning first argument was pretty dumb but i did not want to fight so i left went to my moms she knew,then i we tried again and again she tried cut herself, she thought i did not like the kids they where in the way she thought that scared me away i guess her meth, and anti depress pills mess her up she lost her mom at 17 her dad was never in the pic so she was on her own with three kids and i know she choose to but regardless anyways never in the world did i think after alot of dumb fights and me thinking eventually we will reach to somewhat better level then she is so after her making me feel like nothing will tear us upart we had another argueement went to work she never let me back in the house would not talk to me until i got her attention by bad mouthing her and then i explained thats the level that you had to let me go to get an answer your there she claimed she has had enough of me leaving all the time it hurts her and the kids and i know today i was wrong but alot of no communication, and little stupidities and her not oening up and letting the past go and look at the future so i finally got her to talk to me and she wants to take it one step at a time now i need to know how do i know she is not doing this because she feel sorry for me! How do i make her understand that i want her to do because she wants to make it work rather then making me think she will try and grdually let go and with no effort let me go that will crush me and i fear what effect i will get thank you merry x mas
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reader, mr messed up +, writes (30 December 2010):
mr messed up is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you who took the time to reply. Merry Christmas and happy new years to you all and your families, may we all wish for peace throughout the world and no more war.
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reader, angelDlite  +, writes (30 December 2010):
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well she has agreed to give things another chance so all you can do now is do your best and look honestly at your behaviour before you split up to see if there is anything you could improve about youself and how you handled things. all you can do is your best and hope she does the same. no relationship in the world comes with a guarantee, so just enjoy it, dont be paranoid
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reader, mr messed up +, writes (29 December 2010):
mr messed up is verified as being by the original poster of the questionso i started talking with her and she will give it another shot but her and her kids want to take it slowly this time but i am not sure if she is doing this because she wants i think maybe i am paranoid i know i am very confussed is there a way of knowing if its her that wants or is this a i feel sorry and slowly he will go away ? someone help ! ty
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reader, angelDlite +, writes (26 December 2010):
this sounds very messed up! too much trouble in the world already without arguing and fighting with people we say we love. talk to each other and make an agreement that next time you feel things are developing into a silly argument, take a breath, calm down, even if it means leaving the room until you calm down. the other person should let this happen, not go after you to continue ranting.then come back and discuss whatever the problem is like sensible adults. me and my ex used to agrue a lot (hence he is my ex!) the more silly arguments you have the more chance of hurtful things being said which are not really forgotten after the arguement has ended. this is going to drive a wedge between you both a little bit more everytime it happens, so either learn to communicate nicely or go your seperate ways. your choice.
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