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writes:Okay, I've never givin a blow job, and im kinda nervous on it cause well i think its kinda nasty to put ur mouth on the guys dick, if u think about it.....anyways i want to but im to shy, and idk how to get over it, i mean part of me wants to but then part of me doesn't, i need help someone please help me:) thank you:)
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 November 2009): If you think it is nasty, than don't do it. You absolutely don't have to do it. I know it seems that everybody is doing it nowadays, but that is not true. Many women would never go down on a guy.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 November 2009): Make a deal with him. You'll give it a try, as long as he gives you enough warning to get out of the way before he finishes. Clearly you don't want him cumming in your mouth the first time, so if he does, that's the end, forever, in his getting oral sex from you. I'm pretty sure he'll go along with it. You're thinking of doing a very nice thing for him -- he needs to make damned sure you know he appreciates it!
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (5 November 2009):
 You can find plenty of information on the mechanics. You seem to be looking for the pschological coping tips. I heard a great one years ago. Imagine that the man you love has been shrunk to penis-size. Now imagine that it's the little man you are touching with your mouth and tongue (never teeth!). Does this change the way you think about it? His penis is a kind of mini-me to him, it's a major part of his self-image and his sexuality. Wouldn't you want to get close to that mini-me?
Hope this helps a little. Don't do anything you don't feel comfortable with and if he needs a bath, don't be too shy to tell him. Take care.
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reader, DoubleM +, writes (5 November 2009):
 There is nothing "nasty" about putting "ur mouth on a guy's dick" providing he is healthy and maintains good hygiene. Good guys make sure to clean up anyway. Even ingesting sperm is considered quite nourishing and harmless if the man is healthy. All has been practiced for tens of thousands of years, and males giving oral to females is also healthy unless she has a yeast infection (common) or worse. Basically, don't worry about oral sex with a healthy and clean mate.
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reader, lovingshook +, writes (5 November 2009):
Just make sure and catch him right after he showers, that will help you lots. If you're smart about it, you can train him to shower before a bj every time. Trust me, you could probably have him jumping through flaming hoops in a tutu to get a bj :)And then just.. do it. You don't have to do it until he climaxes the first time, you can just kind of feel it out for a bit first. There's really no talent to it but if you need pointers you can go to any Barnes ans Noble and find books in the relationships section on just that topic. You don't have to buy it, just flip through it.DON'T try to get educated by watching porn. That crap "sucks" the intamacy right out of any kind of sex. Hehe, 'scuse the pun.Let him know you've never done it but you want to for him. He'll be falling all over himself trying to make it as comfortable for you as possible. Promise.Good luck.
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reader, sf69 +, writes (5 November 2009):
Try to think of it like this. Sex in a large part should be about making your partner feel good. Learning what they like and how they like it. This takes time and love to work really well. I think it will come naturally in time..You should not feel rushed to do things you are not comfortable with. Somtimes a few glasses of wine help people unwind and relax.(If you are young PLEASE disreguard the wine idea) Respond to the things he does that you like and he will likely respond likwise. Hope this helps...SF69
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reader, AD_2009 +, writes (5 November 2009):
I had the same problem, and finally one day i decided I was going to do it. I didn't tell him, we were just fooling around before the sex part, and I just did it... You just have to make yourself. Tell yourself you're doing it because you want to do this FOR HIM. Some girls like it...I didn't until I married my husband. He's the only man I could enjoy doing this too
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