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26-29,
19agegap
writes:My bf is leaving for another country, which has gotten me all stressed up and I was really afraid to lose him. So I try to pressure him to give me a commitment and I think that got him very frustrated. When he did not even plan to spend his last day before he flies together, I was disappointed and he was frustrated. So I initiated a break. The thing is, I know I've been pressurizing him, but I also feel that he's not giving me what I need - the assurance and that he does not listen to what I say. He is the wiser one in the relationship but I do not like it when he is always teaching me things like he's the great teacher and I'm stupid. Despite all this, I do love him, and I know he loves me too. But I really dunno given all our differences, whether we can really work it out. Our break is for 2 weeks, I know I should try to be busy and forget about it. But I do love him, and it just hurts so much to force myself to pretend not to. We're adults here, and have been together for almost a year. I've met his parents and his closest friends and he's met mine. Is love enough to make up for our differences in opinions and what we want?
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reader, Danielepew  + ♥, writes (29 April 2008):
 I agree with Oldersister (the first time an "older sister" is younger than me) except in this regard: dont' even tell him you're dumping him. He doesn't care. He's leaving you behind and he knows full well you're not going to be back together. Don't waste another nanosecond in him.
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reader, Ask oldersister +, writes (29 April 2008):
 You've been together with this guy a year and he hasn't given you a commitment? It doesn't really sound like he's even giving you enough to go on to determine whether or not your differences are too great- you are not even in a committed relationship yet. You can't force someone to give you what you need, you can only tell them what you need and if they can't or aren't willing to meet your needs (which he doesn't seem to be)- you move on. He's not even going to be spending his last day before he leaves the country with you!! He is giving you a lot of indications that you are not his first priority, no wonder you are frustrated and upset. Now he's leaving and I imagine he will want to you to stay faithful to him without a commitment. Jeez....let him know it's over, in a nice way, and that you will be moving on but you wish him the best if he's unwilling to commit.
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