A
female
age
41-50,
*9agegap
writes:My bf is leaving for another country, which has gotten me all stressed up and I was really afraid to lose him. So I try to pressure him to give me a commitment and I think that got him very frustrated. When he did not even plan to spend his last day before he flies together, I was disappointed and he was frustrated. So I initiated a break. The thing is, I know I've been pressurizing him, but I also feel that he's not giving me what I need - the assurance and that he does not listen to what I say. He is the wiser one in the relationship but I do not like it when he is always teaching me things like he's the great teacher and I'm stupid. Despite all this, I do love him, and I know he loves me too. But I really dunno given all our differences, whether we can really work it out. Our break is for 2 weeks, I know I should try to be busy and forget about it. But I do love him, and it just hurts so much to force myself to pretend not to. We're adults here, and have been together for almost a year. I've met his parents and his closest friends and he's met mine. Is love enough to make up for our differences in opinions and what we want?
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (29 April 2008):
 I agree with Oldersister (the first time an "older sister" is younger than me) except in this regard: dont' even tell him you're dumping him. He doesn't care. He's leaving you behind and he knows full well you're not going to be back together. Don't waste another nanosecond in him.
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