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writes:Since I was 12 years old I have been running track and cross country. I always noticed every other girl was growing breast and I wasn’t. I figured it was because I was a runner and just didn’t have much fat on my body. But now that I’m 22- I am still flat! I have been considering breast implants since my freshman year in college. I am now graduated and stopped running competitively (only leisure) for almost a year now. I feel like I’ve actually gotten even smaller than I was before (didn’t think that was possible). I am an A cup and feel like I always have to wear a push up bra. It sucks! Big time! Another problem is when I first met my boyfriend he said he hates ‘fake’ girls- I brought up the fact that I’m insecure about my small breast and want breast implants and he hates it. He thinks I’m perfect the way I am. But I don’t think so. I have been doing research on breast implants for years and think I want to go through with it (even had a consultation). My question is- what can I do or say to make my boyfriend ‘want’ to be there for me through this. I think he thinks this will change me. It won’t! I know it. I have always been known as very attractive so I know how to deal with attention. I work in a night club for crying out loud. Lol Please help me in how to aid my boyfriend to approve and ‘want’ to be there or even do research with me ect. I don’t want to go big- I just want more than what I got. Please help…Thanks ?
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reader, piglettsmom +, writes (4 April 2008):
I totally understand where you are coming from. My boyfriend is the same way. I am 27 and since I had my son my breasts have totally disappeared. He gets so upset when I talk about implants that he says he will leave if I get them. His reasoning is that he likes me the way I am (small B), but I am so uncomfortable in my own skin. I think that deep-down he thinks that I want them to get more attention from men but that couldn't be more far from the truth. I want them so that I can feel better about myself. I am so uncomfortable no matter what I wear. Why doesn't he understand that if I am happy about the way I look, things could be much better between us??? How do I convince my boyfriend that I would be getting BA for myself and not to get attention?
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 January 2008): i think u would probably go through with it and see wat he says and if he doesnt like it or stand by you then hes NOT the right guy for you.
-formaly Guy
(u go grl)
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 January 2008): I'm a man who really couldn't care less about the size of breasts on my woman, and perhaps he feels much the same. Many females in my life were well endowed, many were not. Never a big deal with me and I even kind of prefer the smaller and, by all means, natural. If you don't mind me saying it, any more than I can put between my lips is pretty much excess. I do like good nipples, but I believe that fake boobies feel like fakes. They are often too hard to the feel, some end up scarred and there are other areas of a woman much more important, including her mind. Just my opinion.
I rather doubt that your running really had much to do with small breasts. It's genetic.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 January 2008): From a man's point of view I can fully understand his attitude to this.My partner is a 34AA and I adore what she's got, and wouldn't want her to be any different. I've had two big breasted wives in the past and I can tell you from my own experience that the smaller ones are the better ones. The bigger ones sag when you get older, the smaller ones don't.Surgery to boost what you've got is a very painful business and not every operation gives you the desired result. One may be higher than the other, your nipples could end up displaced, one may be a different shape to the other. Not to mention possible infections and resultant scarring. At the end of the day the decision has to be yours and yours alone. Your breasts will be with you all your life - but can you say the same for your boyfriend?Personally, I'd advise against it. There's a girl at our local pub that's had an augmentation. At first she was so proud of them, boasting that since she had the operation she'd never worn a bra. A year on, and she's wearing a bra because her boobs had begun to look like two oranges in a pair of socks - and she's got stretch marks appearing.Make sure you look at all the pros and cons before going ahead with this.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 January 2008): I believe you need to sit down and talk to see why your Bf is so turned off or is so unsupportive about this procedure. I think can say it can be from a lot of different areas.
Seeing that you said you work at a night club, I dont believe its security or him being able to handle the fact of you having fake breast, I am sure it is a lot deeper then just the physical. He could just be the type that appreciates a person for THEM. I know that a lot of men of this type will never understand and become turned off with someone that is not comfortable within themselves and more importantly turn to surgery to solve problems. This is a very hard spot for you but hopefully this is a person who is there for the long run, or if not its all up to you. By the sounds of it he seems very concerned for you and loves/likes you for you and that is very important to have.
You said you considered a very attractive girl, then why do you feel the need to change yourself? Your choice could make or break you relationship and will change you future and it can change the way you bf may view you.
Best of luck to you both
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