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writes: im 17 and me and my boyfriend skipped the oral stuff + went straight to sex. but i want to do the oral stuff now but dont no what to do! can you help?i think its important as i want to pleasure him more. we have only slept with each other + we are not sure how to experiment with other positions(he's normally on top of me) and i worried he doesnt get much pleasure from this. can you help me with this as well? we been together 10 months, I think its time to get more adventurous.cheers x
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 May 2006): This might be of some help if you want to look now :)
http://www.sexualpositionsfree.com/
There are also quite a few books available from the major highstreet bookshops or amazon.co.uk that cover all sorts of things including positions.
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reader, Bev Conolly  +, writes (25 May 2006):
 Well, I'd draw you some pictures but... anyone for the Karma Sutra in ASCII?
The best thing (reiterating Dr Psych) is for you to get a book and leaf through it together. I might make suggestions for sexual acts or positions that I think are fun and frolicksome, only to find that you're totally repulsed by the idea. That's why I recommend that you and your boyfriend go through some sexual reading material and look at what interests you both.
The point here is that, if you're not quite happy with your sex life as it is, you need to discuss it with him, not with us!
I'm sure he'd leap at the idea of some new wrinkles on what you've been doing and some ways to give each of you more pleasure, so why not mention it?
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reader, ShortandSweet? +, writes (25 May 2006):
 Bloody hell -TALK to eachother! Admit you're embarrassed but make an evening of saying just one or two things you would like to try doing. Be open, even if it's something as daft as - "stroke my back and then....." Give yourselves an evening when each has to do something the other really likes - and it doesn't have to be overtly sexual!Build up trust in pleasing eachother.
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reader, DrPsych  +, writes (25 May 2006):
 A good sex life is about good communication about your needs and wants. Lets face it, if you are happy to have intercourse with this guy then you can surely talk to him about the rest of your requirements? Both of you are sexually inexperienced, as most people are of your age. That is ok, but if you want to liven up your sex life then you need to do some reading on sex tips (there are probably thousands of websites out there on this sort of thing or you can get your hands on a copy of the karma sutra for inspiration!). It is nice that you are worried about your partners satisfaction in the bedroom, but you should also worry about your own satisfaction too - it should be mutually pleasureable. What's more, don't get too hung up on this idea that you have to try two dozen positions to satisfy each other - by all means experiment if you are both happy with this but remember that sex in a relationship is supposed to be about intimacy, cuddly stuff and closeness rather than the sex olympics. Talk to him...
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