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writes:My best friend is getting over cancer at the moment so I try to be nice and call her everyday or every 2 days, I sometimes go with her to tratment as her mom is ill,I try to be suppportive and nice though she keeps including a boy a don't trust and like at all in many of our planns despite I mentioned it to her, She also expects me to go with her to meet her couins' friends who have shown to be only interested in benefit from her economically or socially at or been invited to my parties but don't want to go out with her or me on a regular basis nor even call her out, as I have other friends, I normally work, go to the gym and like doing things alone too, the other day she expected me to go out with her for 1 hour at night to meet those girls for 1 hour and I refused as explained her I would go out with another of my friends for a coffee in the late afternoon so hat she could join us, I think she was pissed off about this and that she's taking me for granted. I love her very much but I cannot be always there and help other people to treat her mean though she doesn't want to talk about it and I feel like movin away a bit but keeping contactany advice will be welcomedthanks
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reader, Astrid +, writes (8 December 2006):
Astrid is verified as being by the original poster of the question I appreciate very much your advice it's difficult to talk to her as I do not want to hurt her at this moment of her life. The other day she went shopping alone as I had work and she met by chance 2 of the mentioned girls who said to her the had to leave in 30 minutes so that they couldn't be with her as the had an apòintment but then they stayed 2 hours as my friend invited them for some drinks, another day they arrived to my other friend's dinner one hour late and never said thy would go until 2 hours before as we had already started dinner they got upset and they boys with them left as they said he table wansn't big enough then they both complained to my ill friend who took the pissed on one boy on our gang for not booking a bigger table and not saying hello to these girls, I'm gettin fed up of them and exercisin my patience until she recovers thanks for understanding and writing to me love to you both
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 December 2006): She is going through a very vunerable time and probably doesn't realise how you feel. I think if you have a good talk with your friend she will understand. you need to keep in touch with your friends and do try and put up with her friends, even if you don't like them. You don't really want her to be feeling anymore stress than she already is. Be a good friend and stay by her through thick and thin.
Take care
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reader, David Lewis  +, writes (8 December 2006):
 You should tell her how you feel. Cancer can be one of the hardest things you will ever have to deal with. Your friend will need you more than anything, she has probably developed a very strong connection with you. But, you must tell her you need to divide your time as you feel as though you are neglecting everybody else.
I wish her the best of luck with her recovery.
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