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writes:Dear Cupid,so i am trying to make this short and sweet but basically me and my fiancee have been together a while, my son loves him, he is the father of my daughter, we have had some really really hard times. I want to marry him but i am so scared that he is going to break my heart again. he has admitted to cheating on me in the past with one girl, there are rumors of other girls that he denies and i dont know how to find out for sure so i just try to trust him and its wierd cause i kinda do trust him. but i am still scared. i feel like if i trust him and let him know i do that he will do it again even though he promises and swears on everything that he wont ever do it again. we were in a really bad spot when it happened not that its a great excuse but whatever. i really do have the want to get married but i am freaking out. we havent set a date and he did ask me to just run off and do it quick one day but i said no way to that. i want a nice planned out wedding and i love him to death and it kills me to think of him with someone else but i just dont want to get married to end up another statistic. what should i do?? i love him so much and want him to be my husband but dont know what precautions i should be looking for or taking or whatever can you help me please?? anyone ever felt like this or been through this????????
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 May 2010): I agree getting married to this person isn't a good idea. You already have a child with him and lived with him for a while, the fact that he cheated once can be forgiven, many people stray away once or twice depending on the situation, but rumors about other girls should be alarming. Have you ever tried to find out why he cheated in the first place? Understandable that you love him, but if he cheats it's going to brake your heart regardless married or not. If you willing to stick around with him no need for tying the knot... Marriage can't change a man or a woman, and if you haven't had much luck with changing him to this point then never going to... it doesn't look like he is very committed to you I am pretty sure sooner or later your heart will suffer .... sorry but it is what it is
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