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writes: Well I dumped my girlfriend because she was found asleep in the same bed as the guy that cheated on my sister. She said they were just friends and I should trust her because they didn't do anything wrong. I was also told that she was dancing with him at a dance and was in a car with him when he was drunk. And when I was talking to her and telling her why I was sorry for calling her a bitch and not trusting her. After that she said she wanted to take a break. I said if you want a break, we're breaking up and she said I hope we could still be friends and I said No. Did I do the right thing?
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 December 2005): My first question? where were you while all this was going on? What did your girlfriend tell you she was going to do that night in question that would allow her to be away from you? It's obvious at the start she told you lies.If she truly loved you, she would protect and honor that love and not put herself in such a perdicament that would question her sincerity. You did the right thing, quit trying to second guess your decision. Time and distance heals most brokenhearts. With best wishes, I am
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reader, Wildberries +, writes (28 May 2005):
Yes, You did the right thing. She has shown that she has NO respect for her relationship with you. That's not gonna change if she cannot admit that her behavior was inappropriate..
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 May 2005): Yes, you definitely did the right thing!! No going back on this one unless she comes running back to you, and then its up to you to either give it a go again or not. But if I were you, I would rather not with a girl like that unless shes showed shes really changed, and I mean really changed. But what are the chances of something like that happening to someone? Slim I would say. let me explain why I say youve gone and done the right thing. Right, maybe you flew off the handle quite a bit with her being in the same car with a drunk guy. But when shes danced, be in the same car when he's drunk and even found on the same bed as he was in, all of which with the same guy, I dont find that coincidental at all. What is she doing with this guy all the time anyway, unless she happens to like him, even a little bit. The other thing that you did wrong was calling her a bitch but you apologised didnt you? I know that doesnt rectify anything to most people but do you think someone who dearly loves you with all her heart would break it off with you just because you called her a bitch (and then apologised)? It definitely has to be more than that!! Trust me, she HAS feelings for the other guy. I dont know how much, but its certainly there!!! One thing I know for sure though, its enough for her to break up with you over it. Being friends she says? Shes having a laugh isnt she!! She wants the best of both worlds but are you that stupid to make her life a bed of roses when shes destroyed yours? I didnt think so. But hold on a minute, people might say that being spiteful and taking vengeance on a person isnt the right way to go about this. Well, I certainly agree for two wrongs doesnt make a right! But having said that, its not possible for you to heal and move on with your life (ie, find a better girlfriend) if you continue to be friends with her just after the breakup. Dont get me wrong, you can always reignite the friendship once you've completely healed. I reckon thats only fair for the both of you anyway. And besides, another good point in you not being friends with her just yet is that you get to show her that you're not happy with her and that you are happy its over so that you CAN AND WILL find another girl much better than she was!! Thats the psychological part of things, in which could make her realise how important you were to her and then come back to you (but I wouldnt bet my last dollar on it though). You know what they say, you always want what you cant have, which, if you come to think of it, is the reason why shes spending so much time with the other guy in the first place. Just get over her. Treat her as just 'another ex' and see her as just an experience you had. That can help with your healing process. Be strong and show her that you're much better off without her, physically and mentally!!
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reader, alison +, writes (27 May 2005):
Maybe she was just friends with this guy but by the sound of it, there could have been something going on between them. I think you were right to break up with her but maybe you shouldn't have been so hard on her. I understand that you were hurt but maybe you should have kept your friendship going. Even if there wasn't something going on with her and this guy you were right to end your relationship because you couldn't trust her and trust is the main part of a relationship.good luckxx
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