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I told her she was beautiful... but since, then we haven't talked at all!

Q.   I'm in of need help.A month ago i asked out a girl who i liked for ages. I have known her for about 5 years and we are both in 1 class together. We are both 15 and I haven't liked her for all the 5 years but when i told her why i liked her ( i said ...

A.   30 May 2005: Take her friends advice because no one will know her like her friends. If you're scared of her saying no then ask her in private. She might be too shy to talk to you so if you don't make a move, you might lose her. good luckxx ... (read in full...)

My boyfriend says he's a longer... What does he mean?!

Q.   Me and this guy have been sleeping together but we have liked each other for 6 years. He keeps telling me that he's a loner by nature and that he doesn't want to hurt me. His actions say differntly he has been fighting in Iraq and was home for 2 ...

A.   30 May 2005: I think he means he likes to be alone. Don't crowd him and pester him all the time and make sure you give him his space and everything should be ok.... (read in full...)

I'm so shy around him that I can hardly speak. So how do I tell him I want him for all time?

Q.   I have liked this guy for 15 years. In fact I think I am falling in love with him. I don't get to spend much time with him and when we do see each other we hardly speak because I am too shy. He recently ivited me to his flat so that I could see ...

A.   30 May 2005: I think you just need to tell him how you feel. Talk to him and find out if he likes you in the same way. If you're worried that he doesn't like you in the same way, hint that you like him and when he realises that you like him, if he doesn't like ... (read in full...)

I want my lover to be part of my and my baby's lives... but we haven't actually met.

Q.   I am in a lesbian relationship but I had got pregnant before I met her. We were friends for 5 months before we started dating. Now things are going really good. We're planning to live together after the baby is born. She is going to be a part of ...

A.   28 May 2005: You should definitely meet her before letting her live with you and your son because she might not be who you think she is. if you feel the same after meeting her then why not as long as you are sure she will treat you and your son with respect and ... (read in full...)

Do I stick with the father of my baby, or go back to my ex, who would treat me better?

Q.   I am 17 yrs old and I am 6 months pregnant. I'm still with the dad but he treats me bad. He won't let me see my mates and if I do he does bad things. Like last time he smashed up one of my mate's mum's car. I took him back for the baby, he is 23 but ...

A.   28 May 2005: Firstly, you should finish with your b/f. Even though he is the father of your baby, he won't be a good one. He treats you badly and would probably treat the baby badly as well, so it's not worth the risk. Then if you love your ex, get back wit... (read in full...)

I worked up the courage to talk to her, but now I want her more than ever!

Q.   I have known a girl at College for both the years I have been there. She is a great person and sadly we didn't talk much, since I was always too shy and kept my social circle to virtually only male friends. Weeks ago I realised we were leaving ...

A.   28 May 2005: I think you need to get your feelings out in the open. Tell her gently and don't imply that you want her to dump her b/f to be with you because this may affect your friendship. if you don't tell her you will feel worse. dont try to convince her to ... (read in full...)

Maybe we should have a break. He says I'm stressing him out...

Q.   I'll try to keep this brief. I've been dating this guy on/off for 10 yrs, since I was a teen. A few years ago we started getting serious. However, while we were dating he married someone else. I found out the hard way (catching them together...

A.   28 May 2005: In my opinion you should leave him. It doesn't sound like he loves you much. You deserve much better than him. You won't like this but by the sounds of it if he got married whilst you were still seeing him, he must love his wife more. Even if he lo... (read in full...)

Sex is so infrequent now that I wonder if I should even bother staying with him...

Q.   My boyfriend and I have been together for 2.5 years and get along pretty great. I am in love with him and I know he is with me. When we first met, we used to have sex frequently, now it is maybe once every 3-4 months. I would like to be with him...

A.   28 May 2005: You should definitely stay with him if you both love each other. Talk to him and find out whats bothering him and buy some new sexy underwear just for him and he wont be able to resist. good luck... (read in full...)

My g/f's friends convinced her that I didn't treat her right. Now those friends say someone else is better for her...

Q.   I am 23 and my ex is 19 and she broke up with me 3 weeks ago saying that I didn't show her that I wanted to be with her. Her friends keep telling her that she could find someone who would treat her much better than I do and I guess she is listening ...

A.   27 May 2005: You will have to talk to this girl and show her how much you love her. Buy her some flowers when you see her and explain the situation. If she loves you she will listen but if she doesn't then don't waste your time and try to move on. Make sure you... (read in full...)

Should I stay with my boyfriend, even though I know he's cheating?

Q.   I'm in my last month of pregnancy and my boyfriend recently started to cheat on me. At first he was always here for me and now it's like he wants nothing to do with me. I feel that it is me, but is it really me or is it him? Should I stay with him?...

A.   27 May 2005: You deserve so much better than him but of course you have your baby to think about. Sit down and talk to him. If you still love him then follow your heart. Only you can decide if you stay with him or not. You have a lot to think about, like what's ... (read in full...)

We've been dating for a month and she now admits she was "waiting for something to go wrong"...

Q.   I have a question, and maybe you guys can help me out. I've been together with this great girl for a month now. Out of the 31 days, we saw each other on probably 20 occassions, and those where we didn't we talked a lot on the phone. For t...

A.   27 May 2005: Maybe she has had bad experiences in past relationships so she thinks the same will happewn again with you, so she just wants to get it over with. Talk to her and tell her how much you like her and maybe she won't feel the same way Hope this help... (read in full...)

Masturbation gives me reliable orgasms, but sex... not.

Q.   I can easily have orgasms when I am masturbating, but when I am having sex with my boyfriend I haven't ever had an orgasm. Do you know what I can do to solve this?...

A.   27 May 2005: you could try different positions and see if they work. if you dont know any, look them up on the internet or in a magazine. good luckxx... (read in full...)

I told her I didn't want to be friends and we broke up... but did I do the right thing?

Q.   Well I dumped my girlfriend because she was found asleep in the same bed as the guy that cheated on my sister. She said they were just friends and I should trust her because they didn't do anything wrong. I was also told that she was dancing ...

A.   27 May 2005: Maybe she was just friends with this guy but by the sound of it, there could have been something going on between them. I think you were right to break up with her but maybe you shouldn't have been so hard on her. I understand that you were hurt but ... (read in full...)

Does sex have to be performed naked? Will I look odd if I want to leave some clothes on?

Q.   Hello, My question is about sex. As I am a virgin female aged 20, I am nervous about sex mainly because I don't want to be naked. I am not embarrassed but think it would be nicer to leave some clothes on or use a blanket to feel less exposed ...

A.   26 May 2005: If you feel more comfortable wearing something, talk to the bloke you are with and tell him. If he loves you he won't mind. Buy something sexy and maybe he will want you to keep it on. Don't worry about it. There are many women that are more ... (read in full...)

In every relationship I've had, they fall in love with me, and I feel... nothing.

Q.   Well, I will make this as short as possible. But, the problem is, it has been going on my whole life. I have always had really good relationships and all. I think it might be me... Let me explain. Every relationship I have gotten into has been lon...

A.   26 May 2005: First of all, there is definitely nothing wrong with you. Many people don't fall in love for years and some never do. I think that if you don't feel anything for a bloke then you shouldn't go out with him. It will just make things harder on both of ... (read in full...)

We're not dating, yet he seems so possessive. Does he still love me?

Q.   Hey, I am so confused right now. I loved this boy for so long and he felt the same way. But when I moved we lost touch. About 3 months later we started talking again through my friend and then just us. Well now he wants to know who I am with dow...

A.   26 May 2005: I'm not sure if he loves you, but if he is calling you Mrs... then it is possible that he does. If he did love you before you moved, he definitely will now, because feelings never change. What you should do about this all depends on how you feel abo... (read in full...)

I'm wondering if my past experiences might mean I'm bisexual..?

Q.   When I was younger I had a close friend (a female) and we used to dry hump each other. I don't remember how we ended up even starting it, but we then started to do it every time we were together. Then, one of my other close friends (also a female) ...

A.   25 May 2005: I don't think you're gay or bisexual. I think these feelings you are having is just curiosity. Don't do anything with a girl unless you are in love with her and are sure it's what you want. If you are bisexual or lesbian then don't be ashamed... (read in full...)

I sometime fantasise about my best girlfriend. Does that make me a lesbian?

Q.   A while ago I told one of my best girlfriends that I fancied her and she was OK with it. She is a year above me but we are stil really good mates. I think about her all the time and don't know what to do. The other day I told her that I loved he...

A.   25 May 2005: I have a friend who thinks she might be a lesbian and she told me that she likes me as more than a friend. At first I was suprised but I understood how she felt but I know that if she kept telling me she loves me I might get a bit annoyed. I thin... (read in full...)

I'm lonely and separated from my partner. Neither of us is with anyone. Should we try again?

Q.   I want to know if I should keep trying to revive the relationship between me and my partner. We have lived seperate for 6 yrs, but we see each other often. He says he loves me and I him. We don't have sex (he's impotent). This doesn't bother me. We ...

A.   25 May 2005: If you both truly love each other then maybe you should give it a try but before you do, think about whether it is loneliness telling you that you love him or if it is the real thing. Think about why you broke it off in the first place and use that ... (read in full...)

My guy is 15, so what if he's ready for something that I'm not ready for?

Q.   This boy I went out with is 15 and I am 13, but I love him, and he wants to go back out with me. But I think it is serious and I don't know what to do. Now I'm afraid that he will dump me if I don't give him head, (blowjob) and he might find me ...

A.   25 May 2005: If you don't want to do anything with this boy, then don't. If he threatens to dump you if you don't then he isn't worth it and you should definitely finish your relationship with him. If he really loves you then he won't force you to do anything... (read in full...)

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