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female
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30-35,
*pendy
writes:How could I have been so stupid:( what should I do?My ex boyfriend dumped me saying he doesn't want a relationship. Then he asks to be friends, I said I couldn't cos I love him.We went 5weeks without contact. Then a few days ago, I spotted something on my private part and I thought it was STD so I panicked and rang my ex told him he's given me STD. He rang me saying he misses me, wish he never broke up with me. Then today, we both got tested, he got his done earlier and they said he's fine. He texted me saying he'll never forgive me and he really dislike me:(I was so stupid I just thought he had given me something. I didn't check before ringing, I was certain it was an STD but the doctor said is just glands.I said sorry to him but I think he's still mad:(..x
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 July 2011): This seems like one of those "he'll get over it eventually" situations. Put yourself in his shoes. Your ex gf calls you and tells you she thinks you gave her an STD. You freak out. You tell people who might tell others. You might never be able to have children, it might not be treatable, etc. You most likely tell your parents and depending on what type of parent they are, their opinion of you may change. You're in shock, and you tell your ex things that you might've been scared to say before. You're caught up in the heat of the moment. You rush to the doctor (most likely canceling plans) just to find out it was nothing. That would make you a bit angry, right? All of that stress over nothing.However, you did nothing wrong. I'll be honest. Calling without checking wasn't the smartest thing to do, but you did the right thing in telling your ex. Even calling without checking was justifiable because you panicked. He over reacted. Saying he'll never forgive you? People have forgiven others for worse. He really dislikes you? Isn't this the same boy who said he misses you? Although both things were said in the heat of the moment, saying that he dislikes you was unreasonable. And shouldn't he be relieved that its nothing? You did nothing wrong. You aren't stupid. You apologized and thats all you can do. Hopefully, he'll get over it eventually. Good luck :)
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