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writes:I met this man, Jonny last September and we,ve met up twice a week since and we always have sex. I met somebody else, James and didnt see Jonny for two months. James was only using me so i split up with him and Jonny got annoyed saying can't believe you blew me out for him and said James was probably cheating on me; he was right. I just thought it was just purely for sex with Jonny as he has never mentioned anything about a relationship with me but do you think Jonny likes me.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (2 July 2011):
 I am not as optimistic as Wheeler because , if I am not mistaken, this reconnecting with Jonny is recent and followed a two months break. Which means that from September to March ? April ? you have been seeing Jonny twice a week just for sexual purposes and without anything about relationship or being exclusive ever coming up. It seems a long time for never bringing up the subject or doing something to turn your meetings into something more relationship-y, if he had wanted it.
It makes sense he was annoyed, - why not. Men tend to be territorial and competitive. And if he was happy with your arrangement, it must have smarted having to lose it because of a new entry.
Rather than trying to figure out what Jonny has in mind, though,- why don't you simply ask him ?
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reader, Wheeler  +, writes (2 July 2011):
 Jonny clearly has feelings for you, as he did not see the relationship the same way you did. When two people have an understanding that they are just having sex without a commitment they should not be bothered by the knowledge that the other person is interested in someone else.
Now, it is understandable if you have agreed to not be sexually active with other people, but this does not sound like his issue. Because he brought up the matter of James cheating on you, it seems he is concerned about how you are being treated. He cares about your well-being.
It is not uncommon for one person to become more attached than the other in these situations.
You didn't mention anything about Jonny being interested or with anyone else, so that doesn't seem to be something that is causing reservation on your part.
It is safe to assume Jonny has feelings for you. Figure out what you want and then just have a talk with him.
First of all, are you interested in Jonny as more than a sex buddy, or would you prefer to keep things at that level? You should probably decide where you stand on the matter before having any discussion with him.
If you are
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