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writes:What do I do now ??One night, I ended up kissing him my best friends boyfriend who I have always been very close to, the next day he broke up with her. After all this I carried on seeing him in secret, slept with him had a good time with him, nothing really serious although I truly liked him, my friend knew something was up, but I was willing to damage our relationship to see where me and him could go. He was very keen, a lot keener than me, wanted it out in the open wanted to be together. He came round one night, we had a good time. But I could just tell for a while something had changed. I was just so angry how I didn't get to see him enough. So I was quite offish and abrasive with him and admit I probably really hurt his feelings at times.The next morning I said what is going on with us, we can either be friends which I don't want, carry on like this which I hate because I never see you which makes me wanna say F**k this we might as well move on or we could have a relationship which I don't really want. He said the best option is to just be friends so you can have your best mate back and because when I don't see you you get so offish. We decided upon carrying on. That night I get a text saying can we just be friends. I just don't get it. I asked him what had changed he said he'd been thinking a lot and spoken to his friend. I miss him and don't want him out of my life.Whats going on with him and what can I do ? Is it the right decision or have I just been played.How do I get him back ? I thought I didn't want, him, that I didn't like the situation, but I do want him I really do and I need to know what I'm supposed to do now !Yeah I have considered that i was just a rebound. Me and him were so close and he was so keen to be together. Then out of the bloody blue he says he wants to be friends what the hell changed??? :LI spoke to him about it, told him how I felt, he's pretty adamant about just being friends. He said it's probably because I won't see him for a few weeks anyway (he's going away for two weeks, say's he wants to go a bit crazy)
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reader, Moo's Mum  +, writes (17 December 2011):
 Oh dear I would say he decided enough was enough the night you thought something had changed and got angry. It was very early in the relationship to become demanding and angry so I'm guessing he thought, "Mate this is too hard, I'm off."
My advice would be to say sorry to him and that you realise you were too harsh. Then you need to leave it at that and let him throw the next ball. If he doesn't come back, move on and start fresh with someone who isn't involved with anyone else.
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