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*lvenor
writes:I have been with my boyfriend for six years and we lived together for four. I was made redundant at the new year and got a job offer in another part of the country which, after much deliberation, I decided to take. My boyfriend could not leave his job then, but requested to be relocated as soon as possible and we planned to be living back together within a few months.However, six months on, I'm questioning if that is what I want. We've had a lot of ups and downs, he has a crazy temper and I'm a control freak so we don't always get along, but for the most part I would say that I loved him. But these past six months I've been fine by myself, I've not missed him as much as I should (partly because I have been very busy with my job) and I've found myself looking at other men. Not only that, but someone asked me the other day if I was expecting him to propose when we move back in together and I panicked as I really don't think I want to marry him. Part of me feels like our relationship has run its course and I question if the only reason we didn't/haven't broken up is because we were too comfortable with each other. So should I see what happens when we live together again or not bother and just break up? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 June 2013): The thought of marrying him makes you panic, the thought of leaving him makes you feel liberated.
Pretty easy choice when you get right down to it isn't it?
Put the whole 6 years, the bond and history to one side for one moment and look at what you feel right now.
You feel the relationship has run its course, the thought of making it a permanent thing makes you almost want to vomit, you don't miss him in any significant way and no OP, (that's not just busyness) the idea of being with another guy is very attractive to you and you've been fine by yourself without him.
Do you really need us to help you make the decision you know you must?
If you're doubting it's the right choice think of this way: The only way you'll know for certain it was the wrong choice is by breaking up. You'll know after a few months whether you made the wrong decision. But it sounds like you've already mentally broken up with him and moved on anyway.
Don't ask him to make the move to you while you have these doubts. The last thing you want is to have him do that only to then do it.
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reader, oldbag +, writes (8 June 2013):
 Hi
Break-up for both your sakes.
You have a new life and independence, you don't miss him so set him and you free. Could be he feels the same too.
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