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writes:I am 18 yrs old and im a virgin... I've been in a relationship for about 7 mnths... im still havin problems givin it up...I told my boyf dat I blieve in sex after marriage... he still gave me a try but now I think my relationship is fallin appart bcuz thers no sex involved...Wat should I doAnd yes I also fear God dats mostly why I haven't had sex Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 September 2008): Don't do it if he can't deal wit your choice then leave him alone he is not 4 u.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 August 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks a lot
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 August 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionSometimes I do enjoy the moves that he makes on me and I feel like having sex also but I know dat God dnt like dat and my virginity is da only pride dat I have
One more thing id dat im scared of getting pregnat... I love 2 go to school and would love 2 become somethin big in da society... I dnt wanna be stuck wit a baby...
I know he loves me bcuz everywhere I go je likes to show me off and always show affection but dat kinds of stuff get him excited and I be thinking dat its my fault dat he gets excited knowin dat we not gonna have sex ...
So I dunno wat exactly 2 do
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reader, Doodles.x.  +, writes (25 August 2008):
 HeyyI have a friend who was in your position a few weeks ago. And what i said to her is what i'm going to say to you.If he can't accept your feelings, opinions and religious views, and the relationship i fallng apart because there is no sex, then to be honest, he's not worth it.You deserve to have someone who can respect you and your decision to wait for sex until after marriage and you will find someone who accepts this. You shouldn't be made or forced into anything you don't want to do because you want to keep your boyfriend. You have to respect yourself and your decisions as well.Take care hun.xx
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reader, rcn  +, writes (25 August 2008):
 It's your belief not to have sex until marriage, and it's your faith not too. I see your beliefs as being part of who you are. It's built into your character, which is something you should not have to compromise for someone else. It really is too easy to go out and have sex before marriage. I also believe good things come to those who wait.
Refrain from sex until after marriage, because whoever "the one" is going to be, will wait as well. Also, if you allow one slight compromise, you'd be prone to budge a little more here and there to please someone else, which will cause you to take care of yourself and who you are less.
You're a strong lady, be proud of that fact, and remember love is about who you are, not what you give. Take care.
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reader, Emilysanswers  +, writes (25 August 2008):
Well this is kind of the point of no sex before marriage, that you have to know that he IS going to commit to you for life before you let him have you.
Although the other point to no sex before marriage is forcing fathers to provide for their children by making sure they are only created with in marriage. That's great in the middle ages but now we have contraceptives. We also invented divorce so you're stuffed either way.
It's your body. If you think you could be happy getting married when you've had sex with a boy who you later split up with then fine. If you want to make sure you only ever have sex with one man, then wait till after marriage. You just may have to marry young.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, Honeygirl  +, writes (25 August 2008):
 Sweetie, I admire you wanting to stay a virgin until you get married! Okay, so I see it that your bf is only with you cos he wants sex.... if he really loved you he would wait until marriage to have sex. If he wants to move on, let him and wait until you find the right man who will deserve you!
Honeygirl
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