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22-25,
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writes:Dear cupid,My girlfriend isnt talking to me as much as she used to.We have been dating for 6 months and she is texting less and less, never has time to call and her parents dont let her out much and she cannot really reason with them. I know we are past the 'honeymoon stage' but all other couples definitely talk and hang out so much more than we do.I just dont know how to solve this problem as it is making me feel like im being avoided.Please help xoxo
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 March 2018): Do her parents know you're gay? Do they know you're a couple? Are they OK with that? It's possible that you two spent so much time one-on-one that she was spending less time with her other friends and that worried them. Or, there were too many incidents where she walked out of the room, lowered her voice, or changed the subject while talking to you. I'm a mom of a gay 16 year old male and when he does something to make sure I don't hear/see his conversation, that conversation is OVER. It's not because he's gay, it's because in our house privacy doesn't exist. Not when you're a minor and not under my roof. That is how I found out he was gay: he visited a site looking for support for gay teens and I got an email notification. I didn't block the site, I put a note on his laptop saying I fully supported him but he was not to hide things. I ended the overnights and from then on out there were to be no more friends in the bedroom. He can date and go out with friends, but it's all strictly supervised -no opportunity for sex. YES I had the same rules regarding female friends when I thought he was straight. Are her parents strict? Are they similar to me? Does she go to your school and sit by you at lunch or try to talk then? I'm wondering if she's forbidden from talking to you if her parents are homophobic. Or, if you're not out is she avoiding rumors? She may just miss her friends and her alone time, I broke up w a HS boyfriend for exactly that reason: I wanted my freedom back! It had nothing to do with him and it probably has nothing to do with you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 March 2018): You're only 16-17! Sorry, that's how it goes at your age!
She will sometimes feel like spending more time with her other friends, or need to give things a rest; because they've gone-on too seriously for too long. That's healthy and the way it should be.
She needs some breathing-room, you both need to come-up for air, and you both should be seeing other people. It's getting too intense; so her pressure-value just went-off! Maybe you're getting on her nerves!
I know it makes you sad. You are at an age where relationships are experimental; and they are only "trial-relationships."
Sorry, my young friend! Your "puppy-love" never had a "honey-moon period!" It comes with a very short trial-period and an expiration-date.
Teenagers still need to be just kids, have other interests, and let their raging-hormones settle-down! You have your school-studies that requires focus and your full-attention.
Sometimes the expiration-date is built-in; and sometimes parents decide it's time to pay more attention to your studies than to boys!
Go spend more time with your buddies! If you have no friends, it's time to go make some. If you have siblings, give them more face-time. They also want your attention, and some brotherly-love! You also need to know what it feels like to be heart-broken. That way, you will be more careful when someone trusts their heart to you.
Keep busy and go have some fun! You're still a kid and you need a break, lover-boy! In only a few weeks, you'll be over her! I promise!
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