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writes:I know this is long...but here it goes:While my boyfriend and I were in college together, we lived with his brother (we all went to the same university, paid rent together, etc) and things seemed to be going fine, we all got along great. But as time went by my boyfriend's brother started acting very cold towards me. It got to the point where he wouldn't even acknowledge me (would ignore me when I tried talking to him, wouldn't even look at me) and if he even decided to answer me, he'd just mutter his words. I kept thinking, "Did I do/say something wrong/something that might upset him?" "may be he feels like a third wheel and he misses his girlfriend? (when this was happening he was in a long distance relationship)" and so I tried to include him in things, but it wouldn't really turn out. His girlfriend eventually ended up living with us as well, but the way he would act toward me stayed the same. It just boggles me that someone who used to talk to me and was very nice(heck, he even helped me get a job, which I'm very grateful for, despite what has been happening). I would leave him alone, but i would try to talk to him every once in a while to no avail...he'd just ignore. I eventually stopped trying because I felt like he just was annoyed merely by my presence...which made me feel sad, and awkward when around him. I've asked my boyfriend about this and he doesn't know why he's like that. [note: my boyfriend doesn't like his girlfriend and so he thinks that maybe that's why he doesn't like me...but even then, we both don't think he'd be that immature]. I get along with the rest of his siblings...I just don't know why he is acting like this. Anyone know why this is? Thanks.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 September 2011): Have you ever considered that you're boyfriends brother may like you more than you think? Perhaps when all three of you were hanging out he thought there was something more between the two of you, then recently realised you truely did love your boyfriend and has been upset at you ever since. Then in a last ditch attempt to spite you he asked this girl he might not being very interested in to move in.
This is all completely my assumption, like cindycares said the only way to find out is to ask him, just thought you may want to consider this. Whatever you choose to do, GoodLuck :) Lizzie
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 September 2011): Cindy's right. Could be any number of reasons but the only one who knows is your boy's brother. Take him aside and ask him, calmly and tactfully, if there is a problem. Maybe he'll tell you, and if he doesn't then you just have to accept that this is how things are and that maybe he just doesn't like you. I'm sure you'e a nice person but you can't be liked by everybody and it's just unfortunate that he is a member of your boyfriend's family. Hope he respects you enough to tell you what the problem is.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (16 September 2011):
 We don't know, but he does. Ask him.
" I have notice that you are sort of off with me, and that you treat me differently from before,is there anything we need to talk about ? Any possible misunderstanding we could clear up ? "...
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