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I think my boyfriend's best friend is gay...

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Question - (19 October 2011) 4 Answers - (Newest, 19 October 2011)
A female United States age 36-40, anonymous writes:

One of my boyfriend's best friends is an Australian guy who recently had to move back to Australia after living as roommates with my boyfriend for around a year here in the United States. They've gone on road trips together, shared a room, changed in front of each other, etc. They've been through the ups and downs together. I met his friend last year when he visited. He booked a hotel with two beds (one for him, one for my bf) despite the fact that my bf already has a place to stay with his other best friend. The next time he visited he stayed with my bf in my bf's room and I really felt like the 3rd wheel in a car with them. His friend is overly touchy towards my bf. He follows my bf everywhere - everywhere. My bf goes out of a restaurant for a break, he goes too. My bf browses the aisles of a bookstore, right behind him is his friend. They aren't even looking for the same books! He's so needy always messaging my bf saying they need to spend more time together. When they sit down, his friend sits very close to him and puts his arm around my bf's chair. From a frontal view it looks like they're a couple. I've been feeling more and more uncomfortable because I've seen my bf with his other best friend and it just isn't the same. Even my bf gets frustrated and calls his friend a "girl". He always wants my bf around. He hasn't had a girlfriend in over 3 yrs and he isn't looking. I've never seen him check out a girl either. I have a strong hunch and apparently I'm not the only one who's wondered if his friend is gay. Everyone has asked the same question. If everyone's saying it, does that not indicate something?

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A female reader, Honeypie United States + , writes (19 October 2011):

Honeypie agony auntDoes it really matter if he is gay or it is just a "bromance"?

If your BF isn't gay, the guy knows it. He isn't going to turn your BF gay or jump his bones. Your Bf either either aware and not worried or he is oblivious to it all.

I jsut don't see the big deal. The guy lives in Australia for crying out loud.

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A male reader, yum yum Switzerland +, writes (19 October 2011):

yum yum agony auntI think both your boyfriend and his best friend are gay. They both have a crush to each other too. If your boyfriend wasn't gay, he wouldn't take risk of making you suspicious by letting his friend follow him everywhere and being touchy and all. There are lot of gay guys that have girl friends, which they use as a cover up. Your boyfriend might not be consciously aware that he is attracted to his friend. You should tell your boyfriend how you feel, or ask him if he likes his friend, more than just a friend.

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A male reader, Sageoldguy1465 United States +, writes (19 October 2011):

Sageoldguy1465 agony auntSounds to me like "everyone" is asking questions about something that is, really, none of their business....

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (19 October 2011):

As long as your boyfriend doesn't reciprocate his feelings, it really isn't any of your business. Just my opinion

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