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writes:hi i think my best friend is bulumic because shes got really thin and gaunt looking we barely talk anymore she neva comes out she used to be loud but she is soo quiet now recently i was over at hers and i found a bag of laxatives below her bed what do i do??do i confront her i dont want to lose her xxx
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reader, Jen86  +, writes (1 June 2008):
ask her what they are for. It might be a realy embarressing stomach problem. But it does sound like she's bullimic. The best thing to do is get her on her own and ask her the folowing: Can i ask you a personal question?
Are you trying to lose weight with these laxatives i found under your bed?
If she is and wants help offer to go to the doctors with her as she will need specialist help because it is a mental illness. She may need councelling as well. If she is worried about her parents finding out, remind her about doctor patient confidentiality. The dr and councellor won't be able to tell anyone without risk of losing their license. In other words, they'd lose their jobs. Offer to help her as much as you can without pushing yourself too hard.
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reader, lotus mama808  +, writes (1 June 2008):
 VERY touchy subject for girls. I wouldnt confront her, but let he know you've noticed something off with her personality, and you care for her. Let her know that you are there for her if she needs to talk about anything, and nomatter what, dont give up on her. Even if she decides she dosnt want to be your friend, be persistant, loving and supportive. My girlfriend was going through a serious drug problem. She had just had a baby, and no one seemed to have noticed that she was severly suffering post pardum depression but me. I didnt confron her directly, but she was doing drugs while breastfeeding, therefore, giving drugs to her baby. I just hung around, never gave up. Tried to keep her distracted, told her I love her, let her know I was there if she felt like talking. Finally she felt comfertable enough to do the drugs in front of me, and thats when I told her what she was doing was not okay, for her or her baby. I insisted we get her help, and told her family (who wasoblivious the whole time). Just be there hon, you're a good friend, she islucky to have you!
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