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writes:I started talking to *Jack, (23) on a online chat room, we'd spoken on the phone and regually texted, over a few weeks. I was nervous about meeting him and obviously it can go wrong. However, everything was fine, my friends knew where i was, etc.I did find out a day before we met that he had 2 kids.He wasnt exactly direct in telling me, and i confided in a friend who wasn't keen on him now she knew this.However, i did meet up with him, and he is amazing, in every way. We did sleep together and he was very romantic, (breakfast in bed, lots of kissing and cuddles).. etcSo my question is, he wants to see me again, and has invited my friends to go over and have a house party.I'm not sure if i want to get involved seriously with him, as im only 19, i dont want to be playing 'step-mummy' to quote my friend. What adds to the mix is, i think i may have fallen for him, but im not sure it would work out.Any advice is greatly appreciated, thankyou , A x
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reader, rcn  + ♥, writes (3 February 2008):
 It sounds like you have the opportunity to be with a real man. Who would you rather be with, someone who takes care of, and loves his kids, or someone who just has them, takes off, stops contact, and becomes a dead beat. The positive side of this gentleman is that he's all ready proven himself by being not just a real man, but a good father.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 February 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHe is a good man aswell as a good lover, very gentleman-like.
He sees the kids about 3 nights a week, he works 7 days so he can spend his money on them.
Thankyou for replying, it does help.
A x
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reader, Annalisa +, writes (2 February 2008):
 As much as I think sex is great, sleeping with a guy plays with your heart! I think you shouldn't have slept with him, before you knew you wanted to date him. All I mean is that your feelings might just be down to that. Get to know him better before you get involved any farther. It's worth knowing why he has two kids at his age. Is he a single dad or does he just see them on week-ends? Is he a good man or just a good lover? Follow your heart, but make sure your eyes are wide open too!
God bless you and good luck!
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reader, rcn + ♥, writes (2 February 2008):
You think he's perfect in every way. Thats great, but he must not be if you're questioning it. Playing stepmommy, that's an excuse. Kids are wonderful. They keep me young. I have children too, and if I were to date someone, I don't expect at all for that person to play stepmommy to them, all I ask is that they have respect for eachother, and hopefully become good friends. I have daughters, so having someone at some point that knows how to do hair with the barettes, and pony tails, might be a benefit at some point. I try but generally screw up what girls make look so easy to do.
Take care
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