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writes:I am 16 and a half and in the middle of taking my GCSEs. An IT tech at my school turned 40 2 days ago.What's the problem?I think about him all the time and love being around him. He's really funny and we have similar interests.My friends think I should tell him how I feel but I don't want to spoil things by telling him.As I'm taking my GCSEs I'm not in school that often and I really miss him.I'm soo confused!!! What should I do!? Reply to this Question
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reader, Jak Tobin +, writes (5 February 2010):
Jak Tobin is verified as being by the original poster of the question You know, I almost forgot I posted this question! :)I know what you all mean. It's so very complictaed.I told this guy how I felt within a month or two of starting college. As it happens, he feels the same for me and I haven't messed anything up with him. (which is good)I've been to see him quite a few times (as friends) and we are both finding it very difficult not to let things get carried away. we've had quite a few bad patches but are still getting on really well.My two best friends, and me too, think I am in love with him (although the guy himself isn't sure). We've kissed once and it didn't end to well but we are still friends.The situation is not helped by the fact I have recently been having feelings for someone else (again, older than me and completely bad for me).I turn 18 this year and really love this guy.But as you have all mentioned, it wouldn't work even though we both really want to be together.
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reader, Leanne1234 +, writes (16 May 2009):
this shocked me. you may think he's the one or whatever but this is clearly wrong. like the others have said it clearly isnt possible. take your mind off him- do your GCSE's focus on them instead of sum 40 year old. the 'feelings' you have will go, there are plenty of good guys out there around your own age. plus just a question.. could you really imagine yourself having a relationship with this man? doing things a 40year old man clearly will have more experience doing. he will want quiet dinner evenings out, whilst you will want nights out on the town - i mean c'mon love- in 15years time he'll be retiring being an OAP, you will only be in your early 30's. im not saying it would last that long but you get my drift..
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reader, searbear +, writes (16 May 2009):
 I agree with mercedes 18, think about it, you're 16, he's 40. Thats 34 years difference and it certainly won't work even if he did like you back. He'd probably have to quit his job, everyone would be talking about you at school and the relationship probably wouldn't last that long. It's not worth risking everything. In my opinion he could just see you as a friendly, kind student and nothing more so please stop now before you do something silly.
Many people can have crushes on teachers especially at your age and it comes and goes.. it really is nothing serious and you'd have a lot better life with someone your own age.
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reader, mercedes_18  +, writes (16 May 2009):
I think its a bad idea to tell him how you feel. you could cause trouble with this man, his job, and you could also change the way things are between you two. This is a relationship that cant be possible. i suggest you love from afar
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