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anonymous
writes:I think i'm afraid of sex. And by that I mean i'm afraid to orgasm. I know it's supposed to be this awesome feeling but i can't bring myself to experience it. I have a boyfriend, and i love him very much and am very attracted to him but every time he gets me close i make him stop or i pull away. And to make matters worse, alot of the time it actually hurts so he never knows if i'm hurt or just pulling away. I can't masturbate either. I cant stand the feeling on my hand and that alone distracts me from feeling any sort of pleasure. Both of us are very frustrated because we don't know what to do to get me there. What can i do to make it stop hurting and how can i overcome this stupid fear?
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 March 2009): if something is hurting that would sugest you are not wet enough to let your/his fingers glid over you easily. You could buy a lube as this will make things slippery and less likely to hurt.
As already suggested try reaching an orgasm on your own as then you will know what to expect. Be warned this notion of 'loosing control' is not the same for everyone. You will experience pleasure, but the serverity of it is different from person to person.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 March 2009): Well first of all if something hurts then you need to tell him right away so he doesnt keep doing it. What about the orgasm are you afraid of? Is it the losing control part? If you cant masturbate to get you there then I suggest buying a small vibrator or something along those lines. Maybe if you experience it in private first you wont have as many inhabitions about experiencing it with your boyfriend.
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