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writes:First, I just started college. I've been in college for nearly two months now. I met this guy. He's the captain of one of the groups that I joined and he's super hot and super duper smart. I really like but I think I blew my chance with him... if I ever had a chance in the first place. I used to smile at him and he would smile back, I used to send him messages... questions really and he would answer them with some fondness to his words but now he doesn't he'll text my friend about group meetings and not me. He won't look at me and when I talk to him now he doesn't have such a hard time swallowing. :( There is this girl and she's been doing what I haven't. She's gotten to know him and now she's broken up with her boyfriend and captain and her are alone together alot. I'm black and their both white. I also have an afro. He's a geek and a fitness junky and I'm a plus size music loving, hippy, geek, social retard and self conscious quiet 'beauty'. Is there any hope for me? Do you think its possible to turn this situation around? Please be honest. P.S. I really like him.
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reader, oneguy +, writes (27 October 2011):
 Guys at your age aren't half as mature in the mind as girls of the same age. I very much think it would be really good for you if you thought about your studies first and foremost. Give it some time, atleast an year. Don't jump into love. Don't delay it too much, but definitely first learn about people.That said, being brave is the best policy in life :) You should ask your friend out. You must try. Just don't make a mistake of confusing an unexpected or unaffirmative answer with any sort of correlation with your self worth! That is just plain wrong and the route that un-smart teenagers take towards successfully getting depressed!!
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reader, MolBol  +, writes (27 October 2011):
He's being a typical guy and being awkward and sending mixed messages. If you've just started college (which I just have too) then everyone is just talking to everyone to get to know people and find friends and where they fit in. I don't think that you have lost your chance, you need to get to know him more and show him how much better you are than any of the other girls. Show him your amazing personality. There is no shame is being plus sized or music loving or anything else you said, that is practically me if I had to describe myself in so many words. I know how you feel, that you may not have a chance, that you're 'not as good' as the other girl. But that is not always the case, there is always more than one possible way to everything, you just have to make it turn out how you want it two. So all in all, just simply get to know him, over the phone or facebook or email. Things will hopefully soon start to turn around for you! :D xxx
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