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anonymous
writes:This guy doesn't make a move!I like him very much. I feel warm and comfortable around him, and every time I see him I have sex dreams and wake up in a good mood. I saw him yesterday again at friends house. He wouldn't leave my side, looks and smiles at me all the time. He jokes and makes an effort, I can see it, for me to like him. He made my drinks all nite, he brought me food, he touched my hand all nite. He hugged me for a long time when greeted me and when it was time to say goodbye. He squeezed the top of my butt jokingly, when he walked me to my car. I like him, and I would date him if he asked me. It's been going on for more than a year. I know he sees women but there is no girlfriend. I don't understand why he doesn't say anything. Even my friend said this time that she noticed how he is always next to me. He is not shy. He knows he is very well liked by girls. I don't know what's going on.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 January 2014): From what you describe, he sounds like he is a flirt with all the girls. I would not read too much into it at this stage. He likes girls and attention. He may be a player.
However, you really have nothing to lose if you just ask him "Hey, I would like it if we would do something together, how about going to XYZ together some time. Here is my number". Then you give him your number and the ball is in his court to pursue you. You want HIM to pursue you. He will take this opportunity to call you or he will not. If he doesn't then you'll know and you move on.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 January 2014): That was quite an advice: just invite him over for sex. It's obviously not what OP wants, just sex.
My opinion if a guy acts like this: flirty but doesn't says anything about dating and as you mentioned he is not shy, it means only one thing. He is not ready for a relationship, and wants you to just give in Nd have casual sex with him. The butt touching, long hugs it all speaks for him just wanting one day to get an effortless casual sex from you.
If he liked you enough to date, he would ask you out long time ago.
If you have sex it's Him, it won't change anything, it will be just sex for awhile and that's all. I don't think also asking him out will do any good. This one date will end up in sex, and that will be it.
Next time you see act cold and stop all the flirting all together. He is not a catch, look for someone available and willing to date you.
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reader, person12345 +, writes (5 January 2014):
 Why don't you make the first move? This isn't 1950 anymore. :) If you like him, ask him out! Maybe he just doesn't know you are interested. Ask him out yourself!
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reader, desiree075  +, writes (5 January 2014):
Maybe he just wants you to be one of his many women. Maybe he's building up the courtship.
Why don't you ask him out? Or just invite him over for sex?
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reader, Maccy3  +, writes (5 January 2014):
Ever thought about making a move yourself? Perfectly acceptable for you to ask him out. Then you know one way or the other - no waiting. ;)
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