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writes:I am a 'good girl'. I don't cheat, I don't lie, I'm faithful and all that good stuff, so I sort of feel like I don't make much of an impact on my bfs. Ive had two long term relationships, and both times, I left them becuase I felt like I was not important to them. Both of them had cheating ex's, and it seemed like these cheaters left more of an impact. Guys, do you feel more for a cheating ex, than for a faithful girl friend? I've never cheated or been cheated on, and from what I hear it feels really painful and raw to be cheated on. To me those emotions seem so intense, so beautiful..and I am sad that I can't create the same in the guy that I am with. I know this sounds odd, but for me I just feel like I'm such a boring gf, that I get taken for granted. Both my relationships ended, and they two guys still talk to me, and send me birthday wishes...but they dont ever speak to their cheating exes, because the exes hurt them so bad. I cant really explain it,,,,but arent the exes more powerful for creating such emotions? Reply to this Question
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reader, BondGirl72  +, writes (11 September 2012):
 And BTW, I am not sure what you mean by a nice girl being a boring girl. I don't do the things you mentioned here, so does that make me "boring"? I don't think so.
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reader, BondGirl72 +, writes (11 September 2012):
No offense, but it sounds like you the "poor me" syndrome. Love isn't supposed to be non-stop excitement and 24/7 affection and attention. How do you know you have never created strong emotions in the guys you've been with? Did you ever ask? They obviously care or they would not still send birthday wishes. Maybe it is YOU who thinks you're boring, but no one else does. That would be a shame if you broke up with boyfriends just because of some foolish delusion about yourself.
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (10 September 2012):
 If you are not creating beautiful emotions in your boyfriends, that's because they are still not over their exes and are with you as a rebound. I am sure at the beginning of their relationships, everything was beautiful until the moment she cheated. A cheater also has his/her good side and had their romantic moments at the beginning. Nice girls are not boring, sometimes guys who had been hurt turn to them for comfort. They were wounded so how can they create beautiful emotions themselves? A nice girl will not be a boring girl for a wholesome person who is ready to love again. Love itself is a beautiful thing, and needs no contrast between the light and dark side.
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