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writes:hi, im 14 and i've gone through tons of hard things like; step-dad in jail, had sex then he left and im still in love with him (it was 7 mts. ago),might move,guys try to take advanage off me, all my boyfriends in the past treated me bad and i cant find anyone nice and when i think i have they turn around and are jerks,my dad doesnt know how to take care of me and his wife doesnt either(parents never got married) and top it off i have really bad depression, i have really bad thoughts,i hurt myself (parents know) and no one is helping me, i aleady went to the stress center and was in therapy, but im crying again and i feel worthless..i dont know what else to do, i asked my mom to call someone and she did but didnt set anything up, is there anything i can do???
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reader, Miamine  +, writes (16 June 2010):
 You need to have intensive counselling.. go back to your doctor, tell him the tablets are not working and tell him you need counselling because you are hurting yourself..
You are right, you cannot do this alone.. go scream and shout at your doctor untill they realise how desperate you are. Tell him everything you told us here and if he sends you away, then make an appointment and go back in a couple of days... Be persistant, I know you are tired, but they won't help you untill you force them to realise that you are desperate for help.
That's what I had to do, I refused to go away.. :)
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reader, Carrot2000 +, writes (16 June 2010):
 If your meds are not helping, you must tell this to your doctor. They may need to prescribe another medicine that works on different neurotransmitters. Once you feel less depressed, you might find that therapy is helpful.It's hard to benefit from it when you're feeling like crap.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 June 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks, and the guy i had sex with is my ex and he talked me into it like saying ill love you and ill be with you forever and he was my frist and he just used me(i know him for a yr.)and he took more than my verginity, he took my smile, laugh, i dont trust peaople,its hared form me to laugh and i used to love life now i like being by myself in my room...i still cry about him
i am on medication, but its not working, at all!! and i have been to some therapist but, they dont help me!!!! my dad is a jerk and wont listin to me and my mom has depression too.
i have no idea what to do,im scared
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 June 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks, and the guy i had sex with is my ex and he talked me into it like saying ill love you and ill be with you forever and he was my frist and he just used me(i know him for a yr.)and he took more than my verginity, he took my smile, laugh, i dont trust peaople,its hared form me to laugh and i used to love life now i like being by myself in my room...i still cry about him
i am on medication, but its not working, at all!! and i have been to some therapist but, they dont help me!!!! my dad is a jerk and wont listin to me and my mom has depression too.
i have no idea what to do,im scared
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 June 2010): marieclaire, with all due respect, I did not diagnose online, I suggested she find a therapist who could diagnose her, and the symptoms she mentioned are hallmark indications that she may indeed have this, she needs help, and you more than most ought to know that, don't you?
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reader, Carrot2000 +, writes (14 June 2010):
There is no need for you to go around feeling like this, especially with all of the help available, but your family is not taking your depression seriously. Do you have a guidance counselor or social worker at school you can speak to? It's their job to help you, so go to them and ask for it.
I'm so sorry the adults in your life are not following through with things, but the fact that you're asking for guidance is a really good sign.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 June 2010): I think your depression and self harm is an indication that you may suffer from borderline personality disorder, the great news is that you are young and with the proper diagnosis there are therapies that can help you cope and regulate your emotions because that is what this is, you don't know how to calm yourself down or self soothe and you are in a tremendous amount of emotional pain.
You do need to see a therapist who specializes in this, the type of therapy that they do is called DBT, call a major psychiatric care clinic and ask for a referral to a therapist that works with this kind of therapy. Of course only a professional can diagnose you, but if you go to one that is an expert in this, they will be the best ones to tell you if you suffer with this or not.
There is help for your depression, too, you may need some medication. Until you can get your appointment set up, try to avoid stressful situations, stay away from the boyfriend, take a nice hot bath with some good smelling stuff, rent some sappy movies and rest....it's OK to pamper yourself and take care of yourself. Don't do anything to hurt yourself, that isn't helping you and adds to your stress instead...Breathe properly, take deep breaths from your diaphram up....Hang in there.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 June 2010): OK you're 14 years old, Try to leave the whole boyfriend thing, you'll have plenty of time for that when you're older. You don't need a boy/man in your life to keep you happy for now. Spend more time on yourself. Do more things that makes you happy. Little things can make a big difference trust me. You live only one life so make the best of it.
NightFairy
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