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writes: I have been apart from my wife for 4 years. We even divorced becouse I thought it would help me "move on". We have two beautiful little girls together and have remained friends. I have had several relationships, but I still think about her every day, several times a day. I really think we made a mistake. I was ill when we parted and now live on a dis. pension. I have no idea how to try to start a new relationship with her. She is the love of my life and even now seeing her or hearing her voice gives me butterflies. Others have asked me why we don't just get back together when they see the way we interact and cooperate while caring for our girls. I'm afraid they may be seeing something that's not there(for her). Please help me
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 October 2006): u have nothing to loose...go for it..tell her..win her back..if she dont feel the same..at least u kno u tried..u dont wanna look back and regret that u never even attempted..i think its sweet..sumtimes..u dont kno what u have untill u loose it..jus try:) freind x
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reader, Frank B Kermit  +, writes (17 October 2006):
 You have a good history, so I think all that is missing is for you to address her emotional needs.Do the following thingsThe 10 Emotional Needs of a Woman1-The protection of her most valuable asset: Her Reputation2-Women want to FEEEEL a range of emotions. Do not try to make her happy, give her a full range from fury to ecstasy. This is a.k.a. her Drama Cookie3-Cater to the little girl in her. Know the difference when to ignore her ramblings and when she needs you to give her a hug. Sometimes she just needs to be reassured like a little kid4-Be dominant and take responsibility for leading the relationship. This includes making all the decisions, and taking 100% responsibility for the sex in the relationship. It all has to be the man’s “fault”5-She fears abandonment. This is part biological programming, as in the event she is left with a child, she needs to be sure that she will not be abandoned, and left alone to care for it. This covers her emotional need to feel secure.6-Trust. The key here is if she can trust you to be honest with her; even if you know she will not like what you have to say. In a woman’s reality, she is used to people lying to her ALL THE TIME because of the way she looks, or they simply want something from her. If you are willing to piss her off with your honesty, you have demonstrated that she can trust you.7-Her physical safety. A man must demonstrate that he is capable of protecting her physically from the threats of the outside world. This is to make her feel safe.8-Women need to know you can handle her TRUE sexuality. She will only be as wonton with you as you demonstrate that you can handle it. She needs to explore her sexuality and let it be free with you as a Natural Woman9-Prove that you have high quality sperm. The best way is by showing other girls want to have sex (procreate) with you, and/or you are a “good catch” and he kids with you will also be a “good catch” enough to also attract a mate.10-Prove that you are not a homosexual. She knows every homosexual male friend she has that is not out of the closet yet. Could you be one too?-Frank B Kermit
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