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writes:ok so theres this boy i have liked for nearly a year now but im always really rervous 2 say anthin 2 him, so i came up wiv a "safty-net" hu seems quite interested in me so incase i didnt get with the boy i wanted to originally if i never asked him out or i do an he sed no, then i would have him to fall back on an i wouldnt feel as bad but the thing is ive never told anyone about my safety net, and my best friend has recintly told me that she has fallen in love with him... i mean i support her and everything but would it be horrieble of me to ask her to step back because everytime i think about doing that i just feel like im at little kid at nursery hogging toys from my friend, is that what im doing?? plz help
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reader, vamp-gal +, writes (7 February 2010):
 If she likes him then you shouldn't do anything. It's not fair on the guy to be thought of as a "saftey net" if you like some other guy and don't particually like him.
If your friend likes him more than you then it's only fair that she should be the one to go out with him.
Now the guy you like, if you like him then ask him out. He may say no but at least you'll finally have your answer however, you'll have to do without the "safety net" it's not right.
However, you never know, he might feel the same way.
Just remember that if he doesn't feel the same way and you decide to go through with this "safety net" thing then the relationship won't work because you wouldn't have been happy, and neither would the the "safety net" guy, also think about how your friend would feel and how he would feel if he found out he was basically being used.
Hope this helps,
Good Luck x
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 February 2010): you should let your mate go for that boy. There is no point in a safety net...if u dont actually like him whats the point in goin out with him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 February 2010): You can't hog two guys at once, plus it's not fair on the guy to go for him if you don't like him much and she does.
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