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writes:here goes nothing. I was with this girl for about two months, maybe a little less. We got along great, sex was awesome, had a great connection. I am not the most secure person, and I had some issues. She told me very straightforward earlier in the relationship, no games, no jealousy. I didn't heed that warning, There was an incident that occured: she was like an hour late to my house from hanging out with her friend she came over, but I was stewing in my own misery and was pissed off for no reason at all. She came in, I had an attitude and she said she wanted to leave. I tried to talk to her, she wouldn't talk to me, and I foIllowed her in my car in an attempt to get her to talk to me. She called me and said if I go to her house " we are done ". I turned around and went home. I know it was a stupid move, you have no idea. I wish I could take it back. That was the last straw. she was too emotionally angry to talk to me, and still hasn't talked to me since that night. three days have gone by and I have been miserable. she sent me a message on facebook, breaking up with me saying " we are done " essentially. we had a little back and forth on facebook, cause she still wouldn't speak to me. I wrote one long passion plea " I will change, etc. " and I meant every word. I screwed up, and now I want her back. I know I have to give ger space, but she deleted her facebook and was looking around on match.com. I don't know what to say to her, I know she needs her space. What do I say to her when she does call me and actually talk to me? I know its been two months, but I love this girl.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 September 2009): One advice to you: MOVE ON! There is this old saying: "If you love someone set them free, if they come back they're always yours. If they don't they were never yours". Go figure.
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reader, softtouchmale2003 +, writes (8 September 2009):
 I wouldn't count on it. You're a good time. The fact that she's started shopping so soon tells me that she wasn't that serious about you.
Unfortunately from everything you've said, she's a player and you're serious.
As far as insecurity issues, I will say with someone like that, your intuition was right on the money.
However, intuition aside, I think you need to control your anger. I know its very hard to do that, but one way to do that is to kind of figure out why it is you might be insecure around girlfriends to begin with.
If its been because you've had trust or betrayal issues before, try and examine why and how to keep those feelings in check, long enough to take your time to analyze things before you explode.
I know it sounds silly, but you want to be able to trust your girlfriends and significant others. If you feel confident in them, they will be happy to be around you.
As far as the "no games" girl, well it seems to me she was testing your boundaries by showing up late. Maybe it was her way of seeing whether you were worth further efforts or not. In that case, she was playing games with you. If she was honestly late, she should've at least heard you out instead of run home and refuse to talk.
Refusing to communicate to me is a sure-fire sign that she had little to no interest in you.
Its sad when people do that, because then they act like its a chore to talk to you, and it should never be that way.
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