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writes:14 yrs we were together, she was the nicest most caring person you could meet, so why...why would i ruin it all,, i have/had 3 gorgeous children as well to make the perfect relationship,,,, so i had an affair with some blonde bimbo who i fell for!! how , why i don't know, it went on for 16 months after which i told my girlfriend and now its over between us, i also posted semi nude pics of myself on the internet sites !! again why i dont know. this is where the woman reading this go * bastard how could he do that* well really beleive it or not i love my girlfriend and want and need her and my kids back, im homeless now and all i do from the moment i wake up until i eventually fall asleep is think about how to get them back, its tearing me apart, i feel guilty, lonely, forgotten, constantly sad, i cant even bring myself to smile, i speak to my kids on the phone each day and they seem to be doing fine without me, i also speak to her and she gives me nothing but abuse on the phone where as before she didnt have a bad word to say about anyone or anything, i am desperate for my family back. i have been away for 3 months now and realise the right thing to do if i was back with them and to be loyal and be a good dad is what i would be i know that now and i know i would spend the rest of my days trying to make her happy, but am i too late !!
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 March 2009): Im sorry to hear of your stupidness, My husband did the same. But I was not as strong as your wife. I took him back. He pleaded and pleaded with me and cried. Things will never be the same. I dont love my husband the way I used to. I have tried so hard but my heart feels ripped off. I didnt deserve what he did to me
Take it from a woman who took her husband back, it isn't worth it you need to move on....I wish I had moved on because now I have pretended to love him and things are somewhat okay...for now..but somehow I dont think I am going to stay.. he is not what I want emotionally anymore I dont feel as One with him anymore...I want a real man with MORALS
GOOD LUCK TO YOU THOUGH
I HOPE THE SEX WAS WORTH IT
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 March 2009): Men make dumb decisions when it comes to sex. Give her some space. Let her miss you a but. Desperate men are not attractive, particularly if they were such dopes like you. After a little while, bring her flowers, and say you are sorry. Say you miss her, and the kids. You might have to give her some space again, and say it again. In the meantime, don;t post any more pics. She may or may not take you back.
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (22 March 2009):
To be honest, I think you are very sorry that you got caught, but I don't quite think you are sorry for what you did.
It's not enough to say "I don't know why I did it" for 16 MONTHS!
You can't punch someone in the face and then say "sorry, I don't know why I did that" as that makes it all the worse for them.
Go and have a big think about WHY you failed your relationship like this. A moment of weakness and a one night stand can be explained as just sex but you were with this other woman for over a year and only have to say that she was "a blonde bimbo." That doesn't make you out to be any better. In fact it makes you worse since you seem to see her as a disposable play thing.
Until you know why you did these things then you will not have any reason why you won't do it again.
Go and get counselling, become a buddhist, I don't really care what you do, just figure yourself out and then you can be in a position to ask "do I deserve forgiveness? Will I do this again?"
Then you just have to crawl back, and send flowers and letters and sonnets and everything you have to try and convince her that you are not only sorry, but that you will never ever do this again.
Good Luck!! xx
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