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writes:hi,my boyfriend recieved an email from a woman it saidHi,Thank you for your diary.Have a nice evening.It was nice to spend time with you.again we do itbye SmilerI asked him about this. all he said was that he has done nothing wrong, and he is sick of this...He has not spoke to me since, this happened 3 hours ago.he has cheated on me two time in the past.am i right to think that something is going on here?
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reader, anon_e_mouse +, writes (18 May 2009):
 Agree with others here. I have come across this "I haven't done anything wrong" attitude a lot.
To me it's pretty obvious... why would anyone say that? Probably because they have done something wrong... " I was only flirting", "it was only harmless flirting" or I was only seeing if I could get her number - I wasn't going to call her", "it was only an email".
If it were so harmless why hide it? If it's innocent why keep it a secret from you?
At the end of the day this guy cannot be trusted.
If I were you I'd get rid. How many chances does this guy need? How many times are you going to put up with this? He's already crossed the boundaries twice and he's doing again.
You can do better. Think of it this way... The more time you spend in this "relationship", the more time you waste when you could be meeting and getting together with someone who's right for you, can be trusted.
Good luck :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 May 2009): do not be put off by this apparent anger. angry only because he was caught and now he is blame shifting. yep, something is going on and i am glad you caught him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 May 2009): He is just angry because he got caught. So he is trying to turn the blame around on you to take the spotlight off of himself. Honestly this guy sounds like he's not going to change I would get away from him now. Good luck......J
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reader, lola16182  +, writes (17 May 2009):
If he's cheated before...he's most likely cheated again. Not 100% positive but the fact he has breached trust before, not once, but TWICE, hey 3rd times the charm.
After the 2 cheating incidents, did he vow to change? If so did he actually make initiative to change? They usually get upset when caught, but the crying & the show is usually them being upset at being caught--there is no excuse for cheating & no such thing as "they didn't mean it".
--Oh and the defensive comment of "he is sick of this" is him trying to make u feel bad and transfer the blame to you so that he hopes it takes the focus off him.
Trust your gut...it's usually right
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reader, iluver  +, writes (17 May 2009):
if youre bf cheats on you he doesnt deserve a second chance. you gave him a third. you can do better than him, but the choice is up to you.
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