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female
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:Thanks in advance to anyone who reads my question! I went to an event last weekend and was making eye contact and smiling with a guy there all day (upon his initiation). He was with his family and so was I and in our culture (we come from the same background) it is kind of a no-no for a man to approach a woman in front of her family. So sadly, I went home with regrets of not talking to him and I knew nothing about him.A few days later I signed up for an online dating site and lo and behold he was one of my matches. His profile hadn't been active for some time so I found him on Facebook and we proceeded to message back and forth for a couple of days and he asked me to coffee.Now unluckily, I am in the middle of my final exams for pharmacy school for the next 4 weeks and I am totally overwhelmed and too stressed to be thinking about a first date, so I told him that because of exams, if he would be okay with meeting the first week of May? He took longer than usual to reply but did a few days later, apologizing for his delay and saying that first week of May works and that he's looking forward to it. Now I'm overthinking this and I'm worried that I made a mistake and that he will bail or forget about me because of his loss of interest in this period of time....should I remind him in a couple weeks and ask if we are still on or wait for him to reach out to me?Thanks for your time
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reader, Sam Wilson  +, writes (14 April 2016):
 Well I salute you for honoring your studies first. You have your priorities and we all respect that.
Yes a little over 2 weeks is short and I assure you whatever impact you two left each other will still be there. And who knows? sometimes the wait does make the date better.
But be wary...people our age typically live fast and its not unlikely that he'll meet a new girl or worse. It is farfetched but still possible.
If you can ,I recommend start chatting with him a bit for you two to know each other better, I know studying takes time but 3 messages a day wont hurt right. You can still create a connection even before the date but not enough to show too much.
Or yes it is okay to message him to check if your date is still up but I recommend you do it as casual as possible.
Good luck with the date and the exams.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (14 April 2016):
 I think you are worrying over nothing here, it is perfectly acceptable to ask him to wait until after your exams, no harm in that, you are busy with study and if he is a mature young man then he will understand this. It does not mean though that you don't have time to talk to him in the next few weeks over social media, it is okay to drop a hello how are you message and see if anything comes of it.
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