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anonymous
writes:I'm in a long-term, long-distance relationship and I love my gf to bits. I don't drink and I came home from university and met up with some old friends. I had a few drinks, which turned into a quite a few and I slept with another woman. I feel awful and my gf and I always said we could never cheat on each other because we couldn't live with the guilt. I feel very guilty and I don't want to hurt her. Should I tell her about my one night stand or keep it and live with the guilt? From looking at peoples advice, most people confess to cheating to get it off their conscience. I don't want to put it on her and get it off my chest but I feel so bad and any longer-term relationship (i.e. moving in and perhaps marriage) would be tarnished by this. I don't want to keep it a secret as we shouldn't have to keep things from each other but I would break her heart. Advice please...
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reader, sunshine99 +, writes (26 March 2007):
 I would normally advise not to say anything as we all make mistakes such as this and it just shows that drinking in excess can get us into all kinds of trouble. i'm not going to lecture you as you realise that you have made a terrible mistake. You have to be strong here and tell her. She will be angry and her trust in you will be non exsistent but you will have to do everything possible to earn back this trust. It is better her hearing this from you than someone else in the long run, that would be so much worse for your gf. Please keep me updated and best of luck.
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