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female
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41-50,
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writes:I cant get over my ex. I met him when i was 17. We moved in together we i was 19 he was 20. The 1st couple of years were great. Then he started going out with lads not coming home on a weekend making me feel worthless lying to me about where he'd been. Kept his phone on him at all times we argued constantly then he had an affair with a girl from work.I'd lost pretty much all of my friends because of him so i forgave him as long as it was over. He quit his job because he couldn't work with her anymore then spent the next 2 years living off me. I loved him but i hated how he made me feel he still went out every weekend spending my money i begged him to leave. I didn't really have anyone i could talk to so i confided in his best friend's girlfriend telling how i hated him for how he treat me but she just swept it under the carpet saying i was being silly. We went on holiday with the best friend and his girlfriend when my ex and the girlfriend vanished into the apartment together for longer than necessary it didn't take me long to realize what was going on - i walked in and caught them! We got home sold our house but we were still sleeping together he has had numerous girlfriends since but comes and sees me at least once a week. I really want to move on but i cant i hate myself for how he makes me feel please help because i know this isn't healthy i really need to move on.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 April 2009): Time heals all wounds and you need more time with him out of your life, completely. As hard as it is, you need to cut all ties with him.....no phone calls, no talking, no texts, emails and definately no sex. It is the only way that you will be able to get over him.
Keep yourself busy. Take up a new hobby, volunteer your time with a favorite charity or your local humane society. Join a fitness club or buy a bicycle. Get a haircut or new color. Buy some new clothes...date other men. You will get over him and find someone who treats you the way you deserve to be treated, but only if you get him out of your life first.
Good luck sweetheart, there is a big world out there waiting for you to discover it.
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