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male
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30-35,
anonymous
writes:Hello CupidMy problem is a bit tricky and I am not able to come to any conclusion.Background:I am 21 year old and I recently moved to another city for university since November 2012. Since beginning, I am having difficulty in spending time with people of my age especially in university. I am friendly and very social and almost know everyone around campus and therefore, I am not shy at all.I just find their thoughts very immature and their behavior at times a bit like teenagers (with all due respect). It's understandable that they are between the age group 18-21 and the way the act is completely what's expected of them. This just turns me off and thus I am having difficulty making close friends. However, when I interact with older fellas, not only I feel comfortable but it's easier to share and interact with them. Hanging out with people of my age seems like I am the only person not enjoying! I don't find their conversation intriguing and I feel bored (as mostly what they talk about, I know about it or I don't have any interest in it) People whom I find comfortable are atleast 5 years older. In my childhood, I also used to spend more time with teachers and others who were about 20 years older. Now this affects my social life as physically I am 21 and my mind is like 40 .This is also affecting as I can't find any girl of my age give or take few years who matches same intellectual level or maturity like I find in older people. It's not I don't find girls pretty, yet when I have a friendly conversation, inside of me I feel as she's too naive in her thoughts. I know it's wrong of me to feel that but I just can't help it. I have to spend time with my colleagues daily and I can't stop this feeling to go away. I am also tired of going to MSc students and talking to them as we have different schedules and classes, thus it makes it tough to spend more time with them at campus! I am not planning on dating older women and I need to feel comfortable with people of my age. Your suggestions and advice be highly appreciated!
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 May 2013): Why not try to find common ground with your peers and go from there? You don't have to agree with all their opinions but I doubt that there is NOTHING you van have in common with them or appreciate.
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